when is it time for hospital

@outlandersorry to hear that hun but glad you could implement your safety plan and stay safe. Just take it easy today and if you need to then stay in bed all day. If you feel sick, try eating a grated apple. Sounds wierd I know, but does work.

I wish we could skip a few days. Have a work cover psychiatrist assessment today in the city so that will be fun, especially since it's about an hour drive each way.

I will be around if you need me. I will just keep checking this thread during the day.

I slept so-so but ok today, just feel drained.

Nell

Hi @outlander

I just woke up a short time ago - I went to sleep early too - well - walking with crutches is my form of exercise now and it wears me out

I have read your thread back to last night - you have a couple of changes here - yes - your mother's bf has nothing to do with you and your life - resisting him from now on with passive-resistance might be enough and ignore his texts - he is a power-hungry dingbat but your mother and how to speak to her - right

When you are making your notes use I sentences - eg

I feel as if too much is expected of me

I feel as if having so much to do here is preventing me from having time to go out and getting a social life

I feel as if I really need time to go out and find a proper job

I feel as if you are giving me double messages - I hear you telling me to go out and make friends and get a job when in reality I feel as if my whole day is taken up with housework and baby-sitting

I feel as if I needed to be supported when I had my operation for cancer and you didn't SEEM to care and I felt too ill to care for my sisters and needed care myself

I feel as if my sisters need you to me their mother -

I don't feel old enough nor capable enough to be their mother

I feel very ill right now and not capable of what I feel I am expected to do

These are just some ideas of what to say - you know what you need to way - want to say - and regardless your mother won't like it so this will be hard

And if your mother says this is not true - tell your feelings are real -

Did I read somewhere you were going to get a third person to speak to your mother with you?

I hope there is someone who can help you - I can understand why you would be so ill right now

I couldn't speak to my mother - by the time I did a course in Assertiveness Training it was too late - I had moved on with my life - but there is time for you

Sorry I haven't been here earlier - I must have needed that sleep

Here for you

Dec