outlanderSenior Contributor
when is it time for hospital
when do you find its time to go to hospital?
im debating whether its the right move for me
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when is it time for hospital
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I hope its the right one @Anony18 💕
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Outlander
You've made the right decision,help like going to hospital makes you worse in some cases because you feel more vulnerable.Basically from what I have been through with "help" you have a sign saying "I can't cope with life,and I need some smart**** to tell me what to do!".I began studying psychology when I was young and one of the principles were non judgementalism.I found the complete opposite,they challenge your thoughts for one thing,and sometimes I would have to defend myself after accusing me of not looking for work etc.I have came away from counseling feeling worse.I think being in hospital would drive you nuts.I feel so much stigma with mental illness and have been humiliated.In many areas I won't put myself in those situations again because of the harm principal.As I said just make small changes.Its not easy the depression you think about what happened yesterday and anxiety you worry shitless about tomorrow.I'm doing my best to hang in there,unsure if I'm going to keep living but trying to help myself because at the end of the day the only person that cares if I live is basically me.
You've made the right decision,help like going to hospital makes you worse in some cases because you feel more vulnerable.Basically from what I have been through with "help" you have a sign saying "I can't cope with life,and I need some smart**** to tell me what to do!".I began studying psychology when I was young and one of the principles were non judgementalism.I found the complete opposite,they challenge your thoughts for one thing,and sometimes I would have to defend myself after accusing me of not looking for work etc.I have came away from counseling feeling worse.I think being in hospital would drive you nuts.I feel so much stigma with mental illness and have been humiliated.In many areas I won't put myself in those situations again because of the harm principal.As I said just make small changes.Its not easy the depression you think about what happened yesterday and anxiety you worry shitless about tomorrow.I'm doing my best to hang in there,unsure if I'm going to keep living but trying to help myself because at the end of the day the only person that cares if I live is basically me.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Well ive had no sleep and ive been so emotional. I think this has just broken me...
My sisters sick and been throwing up. And when she did her last one shes asked for her special teddy. That teddy has been through everything over the past 6 years
My sisters sick and been throwing up. And when she did her last one shes asked for her special teddy. That teddy has been through everything over the past 6 years
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member i think its the best option i have for now. I know i need help but i still think theres others who need it more than i do. So if i csn make changes that arr going to last then i think itll help me in the long term. I still want to go away for a day or 2 just to be by myself and maybe organise something nice maybe like a pamper day. ... ?
But i seriously do need a break. Im worn out defeated broken
But i seriously do need a break. Im worn out defeated broken
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Anony18Senior Contributor
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Morning @outlander - it will be the right decision as you are seeking help for yourself. I understand how being emotional when you lack sleep. I get like that. I didn't get much sleep last night to be honest. Anxious about first day and have lots on mind too as now friend texted me at 3am (one reasons why didn't get much sleep). I have a full day of induction so won't be online much. I do hope today be a slightly better day did you 💕
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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it sounds stupid but i didnt realise how attactched to the bear i am as well @Anony18
good luck for your first day!
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Hey @outlander - thanks for letting us know about the decision you've arrived at. I read this last night but wasn't in the right space to reply. I was thinking of you though.
Something I've found with anxiety is that it is the not knowing that can be worse than the knowing sometimes. In this instance for you perhaps the constant wondering, thinking, trying to make a decision etc was harder than living with whatever decision it was you made. Maybe now you've got a sense of where to from here, things will start to feel less messy/muddled and little by little you'll be able to make forward steps. I still believe that you experienced been taking steps forward this whole time, however maybe these next ones will be ones you'll be able to see more clearly.
Hope your day is going ok. I love the idea of you taking some time out to do things that feel good for you!
Well done 🙂
Something I've found with anxiety is that it is the not knowing that can be worse than the knowing sometimes. In this instance for you perhaps the constant wondering, thinking, trying to make a decision etc was harder than living with whatever decision it was you made. Maybe now you've got a sense of where to from here, things will start to feel less messy/muddled and little by little you'll be able to make forward steps. I still believe that you experienced been taking steps forward this whole time, however maybe these next ones will be ones you'll be able to see more clearly.
Hope your day is going ok. I love the idea of you taking some time out to do things that feel good for you!
Well done 🙂
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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yeah the unknown was bothering me and what the oucomes were going to be but i think im ok with this one with the option that if anything gets too bad i can always call 000 @CheerBear even if its an observation for a few hours.
yeah ive got a sense of what to do but im not really sure on where to start..
do i work on reducing abit of responsibilities? or getting a break? or getting more help around the house? or i dont know
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Having a sense of what to do and being able to have identified what some of the issues are is a great thing @outlander.
Following my big giant crash, I found that going right back to the absolute basics has been really helpful and important for me. I kind of am thinking of 'recovery' (and my whole life rebuild thing I am doing) as being a bit like building a house, that I eventually want to have in a village. I want to make sure I build it on solid, secure ground this time, because no matter how sturdy or strong my 'house' might be, if the ground is unsteady it could come crashing back down again one day. So the 'ground' part for me are these basics, including things like sleep, diet, physical health etc.
I don't know if that way of thinking is helpful for you, but it's how I am trying to do this step-forwards-post-crash thing.
Following my big giant crash, I found that going right back to the absolute basics has been really helpful and important for me. I kind of am thinking of 'recovery' (and my whole life rebuild thing I am doing) as being a bit like building a house, that I eventually want to have in a village. I want to make sure I build it on solid, secure ground this time, because no matter how sturdy or strong my 'house' might be, if the ground is unsteady it could come crashing back down again one day. So the 'ground' part for me are these basics, including things like sleep, diet, physical health etc.
I don't know if that way of thinking is helpful for you, but it's how I am trying to do this step-forwards-post-crash thing.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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im still in the middle of my crash, i think if one more thing goes wrong im not going to be able to handle it. im barely holding it together now.. @CheerBear
but that is a good way to start- right from the bottom.
i suppose if your not sleeping or eating right etc then your physical wellbeing gets worse as well as mental health so it does make sense
