when is it time for hospital

@outlander

You made a good call about the hospital and I am glad you did. Though it appears to help you a bit, you appear to still be struggling because as you said you are in this shitty situation which sucks because it is the people around you that are making it sucky more so than yourself.

Whether you would like to tell your mum about your HPV that is up to you. If you think it may help her back off you a little, it may be a good idea. As you have said, it takes time to cure. If you have not already, find out from the nurse/GP what measures need to be taken for it to be cured overtime. Break these steps and measures into tinier steps and measures, break into smaller goals. You have one big goal to achieve but to get to the big goal, there are these smaller goals you need to meet. So work on achieving that small goal. Once that is achieved, move to the next. Do you think looking at it in that way may help?

My lunch break is over my friend but I will try to pop in later tonight after my dance. Hopefully you be asleep by then though xx

@Anony18 catch you later. have fun at dance tonight.

yes im stuck whereever i turn at the moment. yes hospital was a good call and my gp made the call for me while i was there.

theres not a chance my mtoher will know about the hpv. i have asked how i can help cure it. they said that theres nothing i can do it just has to run its course and find out again in 12 months whihc is now 9 months away.

@PepsimaxHope your day went well.

@outlander,it's hard,but in horoscopes today my stars said I have to learn to get back up when I get knocked down,and life is full of punches.Its true if we can't get up we are defeated.

we always seem to get back up @Former-Member sometimes i wish i would learn my lesson and stay down

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@outlander wrote:

Hi Outlander - I did feel relaxed after my hair-dresser's appointment and went to sleep for hours in my chair and I hate that - I feel weird when I wake up - but it's okay - I am feeling better and I was thinking about you for quite some time and so I have copied your post here to cover what I can right now

i know i needed to be there, for my safety as well as others, i was starting to turn very quickly on myself and i was worried i was going to take other people with me. but i am ok at the moment.

I am sure you do need to be here for your own safety - and about other people - you had a bad time in your car I remember and that would be bad if you had anyone with you - if you are feeling really bad it would be better not to drive at all - but you are ok atm - so for now that's okay

my situation sucks it does it does.

Yeah - your situation does suck - you are not being given a chance anywhere with your family - they are getting at you for everything and feeling devalued as you are you are an easy target for them - and it is important to remember all the time that this is not your fault - you are the victim here

my mother doesnt know. the only people that know are my gp and womens health nurse and the victims fo crime counsellor which im no longer continuing with. when people take bloods and things they would know but they dont say anything. this form is apparently pretty commmon but it needs time to be fought off, it can take a year in healthy people that dont ahve anxiety and depressin etc to fight as well on top of it all. yes thats the only way i wouldve contracted it i was and would be still a virgin if it wasnt for those cases- yep more than just once.

You do need a lot more help that you are getting - a lot more support. I understand your mother would not believe you if you told the truth about any of this and no - you have to have had sexual intercourse to contract HPV and it is unfortunate that you have this additional compllication to an already horrendous assault - I don't understand your mother but I am sure it has been happening your whole life

ive been devalued for a long time, imagine what would happen if i told family i have HPV. not good and i dont think they would beleive me anyway. it is seriously scaring the shite out of me and it affects everything that i do. at first i couldnt even stand being anywhere but home in case i was leaving germs everywhere. i try not to handle things that arent mine and i was very weary about taking on the part time horse care becasue of it. i was worried i was leaving germs everywhere and spreading it around. i know. i know its only contracted through sexual contact but still it did and still does affect me that way. its pretty scary stuff and it jsut adds to the fear and memories i have becasue now it literally live inside me.

You are right that no one can catch this virus from you - but I understand - we are not reasonable at such times and it is overpowering - you need professional help with that and I am not sure where you should go about it - but let's leave that one for now - you have enough trouble - but I think it might be an OCD issue - you already have the fear so don't worry about a label - it's only a label

This forum is a great place - I am glad we are able to help you - you deserve so much more

I want you to remember that this is not your fault - none of it - you are a victim here and none of it is at all fair

Lots of virtual hugs

Dec

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@outlander read your reply in bed last night,I can't dispute because I had to agree,hard to get yourself up and question if it's worth it when we have minds like ours.💑

Dr Google @outlander

Oh no - he is the worst - if you read Dr Google you find you have all the imaginary diseases possible

It's okay to read Dr Google for entertainment - so of those fake pics are gloriously terrible but they are put there but weirdos - and the ones that are real make my infected toenail look like a triviality

No - don't go there - but I admit - sometimes I do

I look at the 10 worst anythings as well - but leave that - you have enough to get though each day

Okay I thought about what you wrote after I had finished yesterday - everyday I want you to say to yourself

I did not cause all this chaos. It is not my fault. I am the victim

For now say it every night and every morning - at least once - but three times is better

I know it sounds like it could not work - but just try it

Lots more virtual Thursday hugs

Dec