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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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LouietheflyContributor

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@Determined

My son sounds like your bub. Thus I often don't go to many places that require no noise. Although he'd probably just talk to everyone and then sit there asking everyone what's happening.

I like your idea. I want to try this. I can think of the things. It's just sometimes I can think the 'bad' thing at the same time.

Something positive- I managed to keep the fire going.
Something grateful- I didn't have to get up at 2am for bubs. So got some sleep.
Something to laugh at- in curious George the dog thought he was in a western and they were singing. It made me giggle.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member .... that was a scream ...... ❣️

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Day 10 - 8 June (Seem to have missed a couple).

Something positive:
I finally submitted my report, it wasn't finished but I was just over it so sent what was done.
Lecturer had given me until Friday but it was getting on top of me so I just sent what was done.
Got the marks back fairly quickly and achieved 73%. That was a surprise. What could have been if it was finished properly.

Something to be grateful for:
Mum folded and ironed all of the washing for me last night. There was so much there I didn't know where to sart.

Something that made me laugh:
@Faith-and-Hope & @Former-Member tried really hard to help out with thier youtube clips but still all out of laughs at the moment. Working hard on fixing that.

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soulSenior Contributor

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73% is a pretty good result @Determined and an empty laundry basket (not for long though) is a nice feeling.

I'm feeling positive about a nice long chat with my big brother (only sib that I have a connection with) Planning on visiting him soon as he doesn't like coming down to the big smoke.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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73% is a great result @soul given I would have been happy to pass. Was a pretty ordinary effort I thought. Takes the preassure off for the final exam which is a relief.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Great that you were able to talk with your brother. Trust the visit goes well for you both. Happy also that you are feeling more positive and your children have been so supportive of you.

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soulSenior Contributor

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Visit yet to be arranged @Determined. Involves a plane flight and then nearly two hour's drive. Will be nice to get away to the quiet and just be still. Rang two of Mum's remaining friends with the sad news today and also cancelled a lunch date with some friends tomorrow as I'm not up to facing the world yet.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Something positive for today:

My darling went much better coming home than I expected. (Mostly happy I think because she got her own way) regardless of why I am thankful that so far so good.

Something to be grateful for.

For the duration of my darlings hospital stay (3 weeks) bub and I managed over 4000km of travel for visiting (including todays pickup run) without incident. Considering how tired I have been for much of it I am grateful we made it. Grateful also for the days mum diplomatically took the keys and drove for me. Thanks mum, much appreciated. 😚

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soulSenior Contributor

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Glad to hear that the return home has been pretty good so far @Determined. Wishing you and your family beautiful and calm times ahead.

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