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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor29 June 2019, 7:47 pm AEST

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Grateful for family time away today 😊

Mum and I were going to ride our bikes again (too many peoplemto fit in 1 car) but weather was looking to rain so we drove instead. Was a nice time down by the river front and nice to get out of town for something different.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor29 June 2019, 7:53 pm AEST

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Big positive for this week.

Despite being down on target exercise seeing some promising results at weekly weigh in 😁

Usually aim to weigh in Each weekend Saturday or Sunday morning. Got a cudos from my tracking app 👍 😁

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DeterminedSenior Contributor06 July 2019, 10:27 pm AEST

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Grateful for some family time yesterday and today. Went to an outdoors type show out of town yesterday with FIL and family movie tonight. I was half expecting to have to take S3 out before the end but he while far from sitting still had a great time and lasted till the end.

We all got a giggle after when S3 was complaining that the 'stupid song' (played in the movie) was stuck in his head and kept singing the key line over and over 🤣

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DeterminedSenior Contributor20 Aug 2019, 5:37 pm AEST

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Today I just wanted to say how grateful I am for my family, despite the associated dramas that come with loving them.

I have to admit that there have been times that I have looked at one of my siblings 40+ bachelor and thought wouldn’t that be nice. Does what he wants when he wants, buys what he wants when he wants, overseas holiday every year new car every 2 years etc etc... well after a discussion with bro and separate discussion with mum over the past week what I see now is a sad lonely man. Sick of his job (I have always seen as a dream job) and spends all of his time running because 'what else is there to do' Seeing this has reinforced to me how much my family means to me despite the pain that goes with it.

Love my wife, love my children and so grateful to have them.

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