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Focussing on the positives-

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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Something that made me laugh today.

While darling took S1 & S2 to the movies this afternoon I took S3 to the shops and got some new crayons books and a water bottle for him. Well when we got home he very excitedly took them across to the bird and was telling him all about them lol.

The funniest part was the bird actually looked like he was listening and looking.

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awwww that is sooo good @Determined about S3 xxx

Hello @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope, @Bella1978, @MIFANTCARER, @Janiee, @CarerJo

postive I was able to spend the morning with mum , even though i was cleaning and had to go to the hospital for a blood test

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One big positive for me this week.

When darling took S1 & S2 to the movies earlier this week while I looked after S3 she sent me a text while they were out thanking me for allowing them that time out. It really softened my heart as expressions of appreciation are few and far between.

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Something that made me laugh today...

Well I was not laughing to begin with as it all began when I twisted an ankle and fell down a flight if stairs 😫

Well when S3 saw me sitting on the floor propped up in a corner where I landed he ran to get a book and sat down beside me for a story. Most excited like I was sitting there just for him 😅

At least it took the pain away for a bit. Laughter really is the best medicine.

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Positive for today...

I was so happy to see @Bubbles5 back this morning.

Trusting that you are doing and continue to do better bubbles 🙂

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After reading @Former-Member s thread on emotional resilience I thought it would be good to revisit this thread. This was a strategy (focusing on the posatives) that has been of benefit in the past.

The idea was to at the end of each day reflect on:

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

Sometimes (for me anyway) we have to look a little harder but these things are often there.

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For me today a positive was a family outing to the beach with FIL.

We were going to have fish and chips on the beach but ended up going to sizzler then went for a walk after and the boys were able to have a play in a park.

I am grateful for the fact that I have recently found the confidence to get my motorbike licence and been able to afford a motorbike. This is a source of much needed self care time, most times I come back from a ride feeling less stressed and more relaxed. Doesn't always last so long but for that moment there is some respite.

Something that made me laugh today....

I kind of fell off my motorbike... it was in a parking area that was wet and slippery , when I put my foot down my foot we t one way and the bike went the other.. just a bit embarrassing lol.

Then I had to pick up a 200kg bike on that same greasy surface... but we got it up and on our way again.

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Something positive for this week... We had family stay over which has been nice. Weather cleared for a nice picnic at a lakeside location out of town. (Darlings) Uncle and I rode motorbikes down while the family drove. Uncle had not been on a bike for years and from interstate so really enjoyed the experience and I enjoyed showing him some of our area.

While struggling in many ways at the moment Darling managed having visitors in the house with some support so proud of her.

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How is FIL @Determined

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He is missing mil more and more as time goes on @Former-Member

I think he appreciated having his brother here for a couple of nights but tonight elected to be alone for a break when we invited him for dinner so suspect that it came with a flood of memories for him.

His siblings (and we are supporting this) are encouraging him to come visit them all (6 siblings across qld and nsw). I think it will be a good thing for him. He has never made a big decision like that though without permission or direction from mum so it is hard for him. He can pretty much reach all of them by train also so that makes it easy for him.

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