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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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My positive for today,

After lots of nagging I finally managed to fix S1s bike tyre and the boys and I went out riding.

(Bub sits on a seat in front of me, similar to pic below). Even though it was only around the culdesac the boys enjoyed it a lot. I do need to get a new helmet for bub though. He has grown a lot since we last went riding and his helmet no longer fits. We have a couple off longish rides planned for when children start holidays. Short drive away there is a nice beach ride that the boys enjoy so it will be a day trip for us all.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Been a while since I visited this thread but seems like a good time to focus on the positives at the moment rather than get weighed down by everything going wrong.

Positive for today went for a family walk. Despite little people being initially uncooperative we all ended up enjoying ourselves. Saw a family of these little guys at the local park.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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I was surprised at a student lunch today at uni with a couple of recognition awards.

That was unexpected...

Was also touched by the comments of the person presenting the awards.

Have been feeling a little down so this has given me a small boost in confidence.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Thinking I need to revisit this thread again as some dark clouds roll in for our family.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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For context and for those not following my story my mum inlaw is terminally I'll and...

I will start off with saying how grateful I am for the relationship I have with my mum and Dad inlaw. Even before darling and I were romantically attached they invited my sister and I into their family when were living far away from home for university. Since we have been married mum inlaw especially has been a huge support and rock for me through many ups and downs. I am also grateful for our new living arrangements that will enable us to better support dadinlaw.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Something positive for this week...

I already mentioned this in another thread but thought it is a positive so belongs here also.

My mum and I are planing an extended ride on our bikes later this week. I have a proposed route mapped out already and starting to get a bit excited. Seems mum is also ☺

Just hangimg out at the moment for some helmet intercoms to arrive in the mail so I can fit them up. It makes the riding so much more enjoyable when we can communicate. We did a trial run with phones and basic wired hands free and it worked great till the signal dropped out. The dedicated helmet system should work so much better.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Positive for today...

My helmet com unit came a day early in the mail. Mine fitted up and charging. Mum dropping by tomorrow so I can fit up hers 😁

Should have had it this morning but fil collected the mail and took it with him to visit mil out if town. He forgot about it until later tonight lol.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Biggest positive for today is MIL is looking a little brighter. Drs are working on a transfer back to local hospital which will make visiting much easier.

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