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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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Unknown userMember19 Oct 2017, 8:33 pm AEDT

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Hey Bro, big wave @Determined

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DeterminedSenior Contributor20 Oct 2017, 10:57 am AEDT

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Waves back @Former-Member

Still here, just been engrossed in assessment. That and slow internet caused by the wet makes it hard to quickly jump on and say hi.

Had a big group presentation yesterday afternoon and we were working on it right up until an hour before we were to present. Our first run through as a group was only 30min before the main event. Amazingly it went quite well 🙂

2 more reports to go and I am done for the year.

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Unknown userMember20 Oct 2017, 2:47 pm AEDT

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Releasing the last two assignments = freedom

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Unknown userMember21 Oct 2017, 8:02 pm AEDT

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Hey Bro
Having the rain and good water levels would no doubt outweigh the long grass. Hopefully conditions will soon be better for mowing.
Hoping things are relatively steady @Determined.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor21 Oct 2017, 9:54 pm AEDT

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Having the rain and good water levels would no doubt outweigh the long grass...

LoL @Former-Member, if only it was that easy. I managed to cut the worst of it in the rain and it does look a lot better so was worthwhile.

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Unknown userMember21 Oct 2017, 10:17 pm AEDT

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I know Bro, just trying to focus on the positive.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 Oct 2017, 11:11 am AEDT

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Just got marks back for a group presentation we did at the end of last week,

Better than expected going in to the presentation, less than we hoped for after the presentation was completed (based on feedback after the presentation) overall happy with the result. 👍

Only 2 reports to go.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor24 Oct 2017, 11:12 am AEDT

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Wtg @Determined ...,, 🏅

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 Oct 2017, 11:21 am AEDT

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Feeling more positive about my darling at the moment,

While she is still a long way from being on top of things this morning she has taken bub to a morning tea at her mums, (bit of a seniors convention so will be boring as bat #), somthing that mum has been inviting her to for a long time but she has never gone to.

And 2 weeks in a row now she has taken bub to playgroup by herself. Making big efforts to get out of the house and talk to people.

These are big steps for her considering where we have been and how hard it still is even to get out of bed. So proud of her and happy for her.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 Oct 2017, 11:23 am AEDT

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I am usually hesitant to say out loud when things seem to be going ok. as they can turn so quickly 😞 but choosing to (try at least) to remain positive and have faith that things can and will be better.

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