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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor07 Oct 2017, 8:39 pm AEDT

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Positive for today..

Had a good talk to my mum tonight, seems she is over her sulks with me. That's a relief because I don't do conflict very well.

Spoke to darlings mum also and they are hoping to be home this time next week. I thought they were going to be gone for much longer than that so again a big relief to have their help again.

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soulSenior Contributor07 Oct 2017, 11:27 pm AEDT

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Glad the family stuff is going okay for you with regards to the oldies. Enjoy your outing tomorrow @Determined.

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Unknown userMember11 Oct 2017, 9:30 pm AEDT

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Hey @Determined
Checking in
Darcy

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DeterminedSenior Contributor12 Oct 2017, 11:07 am AEDT

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No complaints @Former-Member, focusing on the positives no matter how elusive they may seem. Counting down for the end of semester and some me time.

+'s = House sitting crisis averted (for now) and in-laws expected back on the weekend. (I was expecting them to be gone for another week or more). Will be nice to have the extra help with the little people again.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Oct 2017, 12:24 pm AEDT

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Positive for today

Yseterdays little shower of rain produced over 70mm in under 2 hours resulting in one of our tanks flowing over and our big tank at about 60% 😆

Big tank should have a lot more but the sieve was silted up from the pipes being flushed out 😐 either way we are well and truly off water restrictions in the determined house. If forecast is correct big tank should be full by end of next week which gives us ~ 6 months supply with minimal rain.

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Unknown userMember14 Oct 2017, 1:11 pm AEDT

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Good news Bro, one less worry for you.
Not having 2 legged bambinos, the school situation is well out of my understanding @Determined but do remember you in relation to this.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Oct 2017, 1:34 pm AEDT

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Thanks @Former-Member

No news on the school front.

Reluctant to make a pest of myself and start calling and asking questions but I may need to. If only to get a date for a decision either way.

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soulSenior Contributor14 Oct 2017, 2:38 pm AEDT

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Good news about the water @Determined. I take these things for granted living in the city.

Hope you and the family enjoy the weekend. No current crisis or just not ones you're telling us about??

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Oct 2017, 2:54 pm AEDT

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Weekend of work for me @soul unfortunately. Finding it hard to to motivate or concentrate at the moment which is a big problem. I know what needs to be done but getting it on paper is just not happening.

No current crisis other than the usual day to day struggles. Main crisis with that is I don't have the capacity to deal with it at the moment. Occured to me yesterday for the first time I have been hiding in my room a lot and not really interacting with the family. I will have to work on that.

How are things for you, counting down for the big adventure?

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soulSenior Contributor14 Oct 2017, 8:12 pm AEDT

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Mustn’t be long before the end of semester @Determined so I guess it’s a case of head down, tail up. Hiding for now is okay. Soon you’ll have more time on your hands. It would be more of a concern if you were always hiding.

Yeah - my trip is starting to become a reality. Did a preliminary pack today. Just the bare essentials. Have a few things to put in place before I go. Looking forward to a change of environment and new experiences.

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