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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Hearing you with that @Determined .....

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Positive for today....

(I must admit I am struggling in some ways to see this as a positive just now but it is a positive)

My darling and I recieved and update on our application for S1 to attend special school when he transitions to high school next year. Aparently he has met all requirements for enrollment and the school is only waiting on some bureaucratic box ticking from some nob further up the tree to be able to confirm our enrolment.

This will be the best school for him in every respect so we are relieved that we are one step closer and should have formal notification within 2 weeks, I am just at the moment having a hard time accepting that it is the most suitable option. (I am a lot more accepting than I was 6 months ago though so moving forward).

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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The biggest positive out of todays discussions is that it has taken a huge load of anxiety off my my darling. And you can see it in in her countenance. It is like a huge weight is lifted off her shoulders.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Positive for today...., we had takeaway Chinese for dinner tonight and a bottle of wine which we have not had for 12 weeks

also today Mr shaz gave me a flower @Determined, @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member, @soul, @Former-Member

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Positive for today. only a small gesture but a BIG positive in the determined house 🙂

I am hiding at the Uni today with the hope of getting some more work done, (so far unsuccessful), but had my darling unexpectedly drop by earlier with some lunch for me. It is such a relief to see her looking happier.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Positive for today,

I managed some self care by way of a counseling appointment for myself. First appointment in a couple of months due to balancing everything else going on and not taking any time out for myself.

I made the appointment over 2 weeks ago thinking I would be finished all of my assessment by now and left this morning thinking I really could not afford the time out as I am still working on this assessment. As it turns out it was well worth the time and I'm glad I didn't cancel.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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And our little man is 2 today... Wow- where did that time go?

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Somthing that made me laugh tonight...

Seems bub is precious about getting older already.

Every time we started singing happy birthday he burst into tears lol

Usually claps his hands and giggles when it is some one elses birthday. Didnt say no to the cake or presents though.

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Johnny76New Contributor

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Hi @Johnny76 and welcome to the forums ..... 👋

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