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Focussing on the positives-

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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Sooo looking forward to a long hot shower rather than a quick splash. Haven't had a proper shower in weeks.

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Extra positive for the evening.
I finally recieved a text from Mum sister and brother, I thought they were ignoring me after our discussion over the weekend (sent multiple text messages with no reply) but say they have not had mobile service. Been no more correspondence since so don't realy know but choosing to believe it at the moment and not stress too much.

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All in all - a very good day @Determined

Water, a smile and family reconciliation. Good for you. Bub all better now?

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Bub seems to be getting over it @soul, hard to say though as it comes in waves, definatly better than the weekend and is his usual happy self.

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Good to hear @Determined.

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Hope you enjoyed your decent shower @Determined

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Thankful tonight that desptie the fact my darling has been in distress most of today and this week she has really stepped up tonight and organised dinner while I have been hiding in our room since I got home from uni.
I have been struggling and without question she organised dinner and the children giving me a chance to breathe and regroup.

Hoping for a better night sleep tonight. Bub kept us up most of last night. Poor little guy is trying so hard but not licking bed time or rest time generally at the moment.

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Hope you get a better sleep @Determined and that the whole family enjoys a nice weekend.

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hello @Determined

would you believe this is the first time I have read this post.....actually properly noticed it.....

so easy to get bogged down in a certain direction and not be aware of it....

I am thanking you for a brilliant idea

so....positive......I logged on to the website and found that some people had missed me and were asking after me....a warm fuzzy feeling...

it is impossible to respond to everyone....most.....some days even some

I hope that I get to read more on here and respond again....I can't make any promises though

take care all

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Still not much sleep here @soul, we didnt give him a daytime nap today so hoping for better luck tonight.

All going to plan we will have a family outing tomorrow afternoon, go for a drive to the beach or something (weather permitting) today has been a sleepy day here. I was suposed to be working on uni stuff but no motivation.

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