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Focussing on the positives-

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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Been here before but how I am feeling at at the moment

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So much for turning over a new leaf, sucking it up and focusing on all that is good in my life. Better luck tomorrow lol...

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Hey Bro now is a time for kindness and compassion toward yourself, do what needs to be done, don't worry about the rest, express love to your kids and your Darling, extra hugs and bedtime stories, perhaps even saying what each of you are thankful for once a day.

@Determined at a time of bereavement people are often inclined to help, more so than at times of MI crisis, please accept as much of this as you can.

Darcy

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Think you might be in the wrong thread at the moment @Determined. Or perhaps there is a way to change your mindset?

Feeling for you 😥❤️

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Last 3 were all things to be grateful for @soul

Spent some time listening to hyms and Christian songs on youtube which has helped. But envious of some of the talent out there but thats beside the point.

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Self compassion and expressions of love super hard at the moment @Former-Member don't want to moan, lots of people doing it tough, just emotionally drained and exhausted. I know things will get better, they always do, just hard to see how at the moment.

My love for my darling and beautiful children is what has been keeping going for a long time. Times like this without them I would just hide in a corner an cry. Lock myself away from the world.

Super grateful that I have a family to love and keep me going.

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@Determined

Cry if you need to Bro, best to let these feelings out. The expressions of love are just as much for you as they are for the others, you need to feel the hugs back ,,,

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