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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 1:39 pm AEST

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Just recieved a call to say my darlings granny has died so her parents are leaving town tomorrow morning for ? weeks. Darling is falling apart and I am desperately worried about how things are going to go for us in coming weeks. 😭

Having a hard time holding myself together as it is at the moment but need to stay strong some how, hard to be positive or grateful at the moment.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 1:44 pm AEST

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Can you ask for support from your church community through your pastor @Determined.... ?

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DeterminedSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 1:52 pm AEST

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Will have a chat to our pastor tomorrow morning @Faith-and-Hope, hoping he can help out. House sitter is a lady in our church, makes it so much more disappointing that she is considering copping out like that. Hope to be able to talk to her in person tomorrow morning and find out what is going on.

Re supporting my darling... I don't know what to do, have 2 group projects on the go at uni so not like I can just drop out this late in the process. Darling comes first over everything else though so ???

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Unknown userMember30 Sept 2017, 1:59 pm AEST

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Can you get your darling to ring a support line to help calm her down @Determined.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 2:00 pm AEST

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And there ought to be a carer's support service in your state as well @Determined .... maybe a bit of an online search ? There might be some sort of service that can compliment your three ringed circus ....

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DeterminedSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 2:06 pm AEST

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Feeling really bad that I have not helped my darling in all of this.

I had a big melt-down and rant at mums this morning, couple of things triggered some childhood resentments for me and I lost it. This was all before the text from the house sitter and finding out about Granny, (call rre Granny has only been in the last 1/2 hour).

Also have some electrical issues to sort out at mums that was getong on top of me this morning. Stuff that should have already been fixed months ago but been left go.

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soulSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 2:08 pm AEST

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Yikes @Determined - it never rains but it pours with you. I'll bet you wish this year was over. Hope the kids are okay at the very least. Back to schoool on Tuesday?

You'll really need to reach out for suppport. You can only stretch yourself so much before you break.

Hope you can keep holding it together.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 2:11 pm AEST

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Darling has just had a large (as prescribed) dose of prn which has helped @Former-Member, will give her more in a couple of hours. Unfortunately she is not interested in talking to anyone at the moment, Im it as usual.

Thankyou all for your words of encouragement, being able to talk it out has definatly calmed me a lot.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 2:18 pm AEST

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Best place for a sunny sput @Determibed .....

Might catch y'all for a hot choc a bit later .....

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor30 Sept 2017, 2:32 pm AEST

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Hahahahaha ..... 🤣🤣🤣

sunny sput @Determibed = dummy spit @Determined

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