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Focussing on the positives-

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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More like thus one @Faith-and-Hope lol

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Not sure I woild be able to hide in the mangroves with that one though 🤔

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I'm sure you couldn't actually ... @Determined .... 😂

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Maybe just a very long way off shore where no one could find me, that would do lol

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Well done on your exam results @Determined. I know you weren't optimistic on that one. At the end of the semester you will at least be able to look back and see that you achieved something substantial. That has to be a good feeling.

Perhaps you could accidentally run out of fuel when you are out boating on your own and when you've had enough solitude, suddenly find a jerry can.

Must be hard being pulled in so many directions.

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@Former-Member has inspired me today with her comments on ups and downs thread to again start with this thread. I have had a case of the sulks recently, kind of snuck up on me and have not had the strength to do anything about it, time for me to suck it up and focus on all that is good and positive in the life of our family.

Thanks Darcy, 😆

Really appreciate having these forums to share and care with my amazing friends. xo

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Probably the wrong thread to rant about this but just have to unload before I explode.

I just recieved a txt from mums house sitter saying she may have to leave early to help her parents move house. So much for commitments. WTF am I supposed to do now for the next 5 weeks!!! . I dont have the physical or emotional strength to deal with this. Not only that my darling is going into a full scale meltdown stressing about it.

Already struggling with keepimg up with uni studies this just adds more stress I dont need 😠

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Ahh @Determined - that's all you need right now, a spanner thrown in the works. Is there any other possible alternatives to the house sitting arrangements? Hope it all works out for you

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Feeling for you too @Determined ..... 😔

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