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Focussing on the positives-

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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The giggling and hand clapping are an absolute delight 😃

We were not happy at all when it was time to go inside lol

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Something that made me laugh

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Something that made me laugh

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Something positive for today

After vowing to never go in the boat with me (and me in response vowing to never take her near a boat again), my darling is looking forward to a family outing in the boat tomorrow. Trusting all will go well and it will be a nice day. Boys are excited also for a day of feeding the fish. (Aka fishing- not much catching of fish for us though so Ill go with feeding the fish).

(Often we have tension when boating as for safety reasons I have much higher expectations with regards to do as I say when we are on the water). Will be a good test of back up support from my darling when managing the children.

Bub absolutely loves the boat, have removed everything unnecessary and stowed all that I can under floor though as he gets a kick out of the splash when things go over. That can get a little costly lol.

Was going to try a new location but big boys have requested a favourite location which is easier to navigate to anyway so suits me 😊

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Something to be grateful for

Was able to get the boat going with little effort. Has not run for so long I was concerned there may be problems. (Brother left his boat sitting for extended period and motor seized, not a cheap fix)

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That's great news Captain @Determined. I hope you have a lovely day out. Make sure you take some photos so you not only have wonderful memories but a visual reminder as well of happy fun times.

Don't run out of fuel, nobody is to fall overboard, catch yummy fish for dinner.

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Enjoy boating @Determined

Keeping it short and sweet might help keep everyone happy and relaxed. It may seem inefficient but as I heard on "laugh your way ..." a single rose a dozen times earns you far more kudos than a dozen roses on a single occasion.

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Only a short trip this time @Former-Member,

Boys desired location within sight of the boat ramp and planning 2-3 hours at most on the water. Planning to get there early as it is fairly popular location, especially in school holidays.

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I love being on the water at sunset but will give that a miss this time round.

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@Determined - think I am sounding like my mother, a friend once described her as a 'tough old broad' LoL.
Have a wonderful time bro.
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