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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51

Was a good day on the water 😊

S1 caught an undersized fish and S2 caught a sand crab. Crab was legal size but sent it back, too much work for me for not much meat. And they too bitey lol. Too many bare feet in the boat to bring it in so shook it off the hook outside.

I made a few amateur mistakes but everyone had a good day so goal achieved. (Most importantly I didnt runnout of fuel lol )

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member

Big day for you and Mr Darcy tomorrow.... trust it all goes well, will be thinking of you.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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what a lovely day @Determined

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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First time out on the water in a long time @Shaz51 nice weather for it at the moment. River not too busy considering it is school holidays. Didnt even consider our usual location, way too busy on school holidays.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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soulSenior Contributor

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Overjoyed to hear that you had a great day out on the water @Determined. These are the times that need to be remembered. I bet your boys loved it. How did your little one go? And things with your Darling? Were they okay too?

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Bub went well @soul, and darling also.

Bub wss not pleased with the movement of the boat to start with but once he got used to it had a great time. Did well considering he was confined to such a small space for so long. Managed the trip without anything being sent overboard this time so that was a bonus lol

Darling was a bit anxious this morning as family outings often go bad, last boat trip was a complete disaster but she coped well considering we had a couple of hiccups along the way. I think seeing the boys so happy helped.

I was hoping we could get out again but she seems to be organising activities for herself so it wont be possible... (just by way of timing) a little disappointed but not going to push it... will take the boys out by myself or see if mum wants to come with us.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Something that made me laugh today

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Something to be grateful for today

Managed a 600km drive (return trip), have been feeling flat and fatigued so didnt know how I woild go. The children traveled well and weather was nice when we reached our location (Forecast was for rain) so that was a bonus 😊

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soulSenior Contributor

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Got any plans for next week of holidays @Determined?

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