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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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soulSenior Contributor20 June 2017, 5:41 pm AEST

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😩 @Determined

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DeterminedSenior Contributor20 June 2017, 5:47 pm AEST

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Trying to remain positive, it could be much worse but I have that sinking feeling that things are heading south. I just need to remain in my resolve around the boundaries and not backpeddle to apease and smooth the waters. History has proven that only makes it worse in the long run.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor20 June 2017, 5:50 pm AEST

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I think that I am a big part of the problem at the moment in that I no longer posses the emotional strength to deal with the bs and am not responding particularly well. Definitely have an attitude adjustment of my own to achieve. 🤔

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DeterminedSenior Contributor20 June 2017, 6:11 pm AEST

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Another positive for today 😊

Found out this morning that because I am on staff at the uni I am able to use staff rooms for personal study when not required by teaching staff. I will be taking advantage of that next semester as it is a good quiet space where I will be able to actually get something done. Will be dedicating at least 1 full day each week at the uni to focus on coursework. It is impossible to achieve anything at home.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor20 June 2017, 6:37 pm AEST

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Something that made me laugh

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soulSenior Contributor20 June 2017, 10:30 pm AEST

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Very useful work perk @Determined. Will allow you to be very productive.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor20 June 2017, 10:31 pm AEST

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Here's hoping @soul

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DeterminedSenior Contributor21 June 2017, 6:53 am AEST

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Something positive to start the day

For the first time in ??? this morning I woke to notice the birds singing outside. The air is crisp and fresh (as opposed to cold ans miserable) and I feel as though my sleep has been more restful. (Still feeling the affects of fatigue but more rested than in a while). New day, new outlook, lets see if I can keep it up 😀

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 June 2017, 8:34 am AEST

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Something that made me laugh,

When I look at some of my posts after I have hit send this is me lol

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DeterminedSenior Contributor24 June 2017, 5:38 pm AEST

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Something positive for today,

Got out for a ride on our bikes with the children. Bub absolutely loved it. We have a seat that sits between me and the handle bars, have previously tried him in a little trailer but he wasnt a fan. Loves sitting up front though.

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