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outlanderSenior Contributor
hi @Mazarita @Owlunar @Former-Member @Adge @Spookytookims @CheerBear @Former-Member @Shaz51
i was lil-caterpillar
im back..... i think.....
im just treading very very lightly at the moment
but id like to let you know that i have read what you wrote on my other threads and i appreciate your kind words and for thinking of me even after i left here 
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi @outlander
I know what you are talking about - I suffered physical abuse from my mother when I was small - and I turned on her - and as I got older she was into verbal and emotional abuse
So I have worked out that I am partly the person I am because I would not stand for her bitterness - and I am sure she was very unhappy and insecure herself - and she did have a pretty rotten childhood - and maybe it helped her to feel better but being rough on her first two children
The reality is that I have forgiven her for her cruelty and she had many regrets before she died
That kind of abuse is not the same as sexual abuse from men - which is degrading and really takes it out on a woman's self-esteem - but when we overcome what has been done to us - we do become better people
It's interesting that you ask - you don't know what kind of person you would have been without that abuse - I have thought the same - I think we do become better people - more kind, considerate, compassionate, understanding - and we help others -
It's a hard way to get to be so good - really caring - but the world needs people who have been through the toughest of lemony-times and made some kind of something good - ah - I heard that on TV a couple of weeks ago and I really like to look at life that way
Dec
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi @outlander
If it's bad enough to scare you that much - yes - you need to see someone as soon as you can
Do you live in a metropolitian area? If you do you may be able to access the National Home Doctor Service on 13 SICK - and have a doctor come to your home - but otherwise - if your GP is not available on a Saturday afternoon then take yourself to the ED
Of course I can't see how much pus there is and it could be a good thing - that you have had an abscess there and it has reached the point of bursting - which would be like a large pimple
But yes - it needs to been seen to - because of the thread of infection - don't wait to see what happens
But let us know
Dec- wishing you all the best with that
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
@outlander wrote:
Ots has a a small sunken hole now wtf @Faith-and-Hope @Owlunar
Eek @outlander
Actually that could be a good thing - all the rubbish is coming out
@I wonder if the @Former-Member on duty can add anything - can you get yourself to a doctor or the hospital from where you are right now
Dec
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Do you feel okay about waiting that long @outlander?
I have the feeling you live out in the country somewhere because of the horses - I don't know if you are near a hospital to get it checked out - but one thing - if the pus stops and a bandaid can hold the discharge the worst might be over
But personally I would want it looked at - but then - I live in a big city
Dec
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
@outlander wrote:
@Former-Member above msgs
God i wish I could show u its freaking me out!
I wish I could see @outlander
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
@outlander wrote:
No im in a urban area @Owlunar it is still leaking out its gross
Im seeing where there is other gos besides mine that are ioen on weekends
I can give you a couple of numbers - that's 13 SICK (13 7425) for the National Home Doctor or Nurse on Call - where a qualified nurse can talk to you on the phone - that number is 1300 606 024
Both of these should be available in an urban area
Dec
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