taking a break

@Former-Member Basically, take a step back, watch, listen, learn... but also we all are going to make mistakes, I know I sure do, and I sure will make more.

I was just saying to @CheerBear and a few others the other day, that trying to do things right can be a minefield in here. Step in the wrong place and you can detonate a hidden explosive device you had no way of knowing was there. It's just the way it is because we all have our own personalities, way of feeling thins and all that goes into who we are and our own unique and individual stories.

nobody is going to get it right 100% of the time, if they think they are, then they are deluding themselves. I bet even the mods get it wrong sometimes too.

And yes.. regarding the threads what @Faith-and-Hope said and you followed up with. Yes! 😛

Hi all,

Yes, your right @Spookytookims. The mods do get it wrong sometimes too 😉

ok so ive put number 8 into the plan

thank you all for your help, hopefully everyone can move forward from here, ive been implementing the plan today and will continue to do so

ill just sit back and watch and learn from my mistakes, hopefully dont keep sticking my foot in it and give people the space they need

@NotLabelDefined@Spookytookims@Faith-and-Hope@CheerBear

also @Spookytookims you made me laugh at the way you answered @CheerBear first post lol, you sounded excited

Hello @NikNik

@Former-Member wrote:

"also @Spookytookims you made me laugh at the way you answered @CheerBear first post lol, you sounded excited"

hahaha .. yeah I was rushing.. I didn't want to leave until I knew you were ok but I was trying to type and do stuff at the same time. 😛 Good pickup there. 🙂

thats ok @Spookytookims

i didnt expect you to wait around or anything

@NikNik im online now

FINAL PLAN-

1. take a step back- reduce the amount of time I spend on here. No more forums after 11pm at the latest. Spend one hour in the morning before the day starts. No logging back on until chores are done.
Ill leave that like this as sometimes I have a full day and sometimes its quite chilled so I dont really want to give specific times for during the day

2. if others are offering advice then take a step back unless asked for opinion as too mnay helpers can be overwheming. With this is if I comment and somebody else comments things that are more worthwhile take a step back and done give any more suggestions and just keep the msgs very simple. Only jump back in if that person asking for advice tags me asking for help.

3. stick to a few threads- im only sticking to the threads that im already engaged in rather than going onto new threads for now- though I should be trying to support the people that are supporting me so thats where I get stuck on that.
Before asking for help- try some of the suggestions on my coping strategies thread

4. learn to read threads and comments more thoroughly. If I dont understand the comment then ask or leave it until in a better headspace or have a better understanding of what the person is trying to say.

5. if I cant offer advice then maybe dont comment on the thread and sometimes simple is best.

6. give people more space- people such as zoe who are struggling and I cant offer advice or support then just leave it. Dont keep commenting on the thread if they arent reposnding to me- ill take that as a hint that they dont want me involved

7. less tagging people- as in only tag them if its specific to them in the conversation. And dont tag people in anything so no one is obliged to jump in and help- that is entireley up to them

8. keep one theme to each thread

9.If I’m offering support, I don’t ask for support in the same post or thread. I will start a new one or post elsewhere if I’m in need of support’

IF ANYONE NOTICES IM GOING OFF THE SCALE OR NOT FOLLOWING THIS- PLEASE REMIND ME. this is quite difficult me for but its somethign that i need and want to do to better myself and other members

ive been in contact with @NikNik who has helped me work through all this