taking a break

Hi @NotLabelDefined @Former-Member @utopia @Faith-and-Hope

You'll be pleased to know I managed to get in the car, drive to the beach (5 mins) and go for a 30 min walk. The water was calm, the sun is out and shining.

I am glad I managed to do that.

So now that I've done that am I supposed to 'feel better' because SH thoughts still in back of my head.

Hi @BlueBay,

Thats awesome, glad to hear you are pleased that you made the decision to go for a drive and walk, and enjoyed it.

the drive and walk might have given you a chance to focus on other things, apart from your SH thoughts. do you have any other activities to do? do you find activities give you temporary relief?

@NotLabelDefined

I have lots and lots to do with moving house - but - I just can't. I can't get to a box and pack it is bringing back a lot of negative memories, thoguths and that;'s why i want to SH.

I have my own topic under "not feeling good" if you want to have a read. It's just too hard to cope with. And SH is an easier option.

Hi @BlueBay,

this might sound silly, but it might help...

are you able to imagine yourself packing one of the boxes?

which box have you decided to pack?

is the box in the same room as you?

what are you putting into the box (or going to put in the box)?

have you got any tape ready to tape it up (or maybe you will fold the corners over each other and not use tape?

do you think you will feel better once a box has been packed?

I know which cupboard i want to start with @NotLabelDefined. It has lots of photos in there, ok maybe that isn't a good idea. Maybe I will start to pack ornaments on our shelves. I don't know, I feel that leaving this house and moving, as much as it is good for me to do, it is the end of my relationship with my parents.

It's the final straw. There will be no more ties to them. It's final. The end.

And all that is too painful 😞

Hi @BlueBay,

are the photos very sentimental to you? I understand you might wish to leave them for now, especially seeeing you are finding it painful at the moment.

like you say, it might be good to pack something else...it might get the ball rolling 😉

sounds like you're going through some massive changes in life, I can see how it might be difficult.

where abouts are you planning on moving to?

i dont feel like im helping anyone @NotLabelDefined

im still no closer to an answer to what i was before and ive been studying and im failing that too

ok i think i know what im doing everyone

im just going to limit what i do for now at least until i can get myself sorted out abit. im going to focus more of my studies and sticking to the threads that im already on but maybe reduce a few as well

i like being on here so i dont really want to leave

Hi @Former-Member. As you know, I am working at not getting too hooked on the forums. One of the things I've found super helpful is that I've turned off ALL my notifications...except for the daily digest which sends me all the likes and posts I've been tagged in, in one email per day. So I only get one email from SANE each day. I have also unticked the "email me when someone replies" box. I have found having the notification symbol now appearing on the laptop super helpful (yay to @NikNik and/or clever IT people for making that happen). This means when I'm on the forum I can respond to tagged posts in real time, and when I'm off the forum, I really do leave Forum Land behind. I think I was getting drawn in too much by the email notifications. Now when I'm in Forum Land, I'm fully here, and when I'm not in Forum Land I am fully...well...not here.