I want to survive this and hear from other survivors like me

‘Once bitten, twice shy’ is adapt for my concerns @AuntGlow

During recent days I’ve remembered snippets of discussions where I requested help and support to work through specific things and nothing happened.

dealing with internal war atm. On high alert with concerns same things will happen again, at same time know I need (and want) to allow new psychologist to start with clean slate

I think this is completely valid. I would be apprehensive and feel vulnerable going into that space too... you absolutely don't have to do this, but I would encourage sharing how you're feeling with your psychologist from the outset. That way they can hold this in their awareness and support you with more sensitivity towards those fears. You could even let them know what you'd like to get from your sessions so they can be more proactive and provide the answers/guidance you didn't get last time. @Former-Member 💖

I’ve got same thoughts @AuntGlow

when things feel comfortable I get a wave of, what I know and can recognise as, misplaced loyalty. Another component of the internal war

@EternalFlower Hoping you have recovered from your cold or, at least, worst of it is over.
Im wanting to spend time outside in hope to improve my mood. At the same time, trying to keep warm and dry, especially due to having been booked into hospital for first week next month. Weather predictions for my area being cold, wet days for majority of this coming week

hoping you are able to stay warm and dry these coming days and weeks

It’s not so much the “feel less alone” @tyme

It’s the question of safety and feeling safe on the forums.

do I feel safe to talk on the forums now? I don’t

I don’t feel safe, wanted or welcome on the forums

hiya @Former-Member!! nice to see ya 😊

i'm sorry to hear you don't feel safe or wanted on the forums. i know that myself and many other community members do want you here and care about you so much. but i understand that sometimes it can be hard to 'feel' wanted when we don't get the response we wanted or needed in that moment. pls know that this isn't a reflection on our care for you. we may respond in different ways. this doesn't mean we value you any less, you're an important member of our community always 💙
i'm wondering, are there some ways that you can help yourself feel safe here?

i know for some members, things like jumping into social spaces (like this thread) helps them reconnect or lighten their minds for a bit, or maybe even taking a small break away from the forums to do some self-care until they're ready to jump back in. these are just some ideas ofc! curious to know what works for you 💙

Hi @Former-Member ,

Have read through your posts - life is sounding heavy.

Wondering how your beautiful cats are?

I haven't had cats for a long time but I remember one who insisted on sitting/lying in the middle of the newspaper whenever I read one. Another who insisted on lying in my long hair whenever I lay down. They have a mind of their own. I don't think I got my way - I would end up reading the paper around the cat or letting her sleep in my hair.

I hear you and can empathise with how challenging that must be to navigate... @Former-Member

I guess I am wondering, what might help you to feel the most safe going in? 💛

Hey @Former-Member ,

Thank you for your post about not feeling welcome or safe on the forums. Is this something you'd like to explore with the team? (No pressure though). You can email us at team@saneforums.org

It sounds so hard to sit with these thoughts of not feeling safe or welcome, so I hope there's something we can do to make it more welcoming for you.

Please don't give up. You deserve all the help and support you can get.

@rav3n It appears I’ve somehow given you wrong impression of my current feelings and concerns.

not getting reply to post/s quickly has nothing to do with things.

sorry for giving you with wrong impression/s