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Mixed feelings-might be getting another diagnosis (ED)

creative_writerSenior Contributor12 Sept 2025, 4:22 pm AEST

Mixed feelings-might be getting another diagnosis (ED)

I have multiple mental illnesses including Bipolar 2, cptsd, OCD, social anxiety. I’m also neurodivergent, ADHD and ASD. I already have tons of labels and a lot going on. I’m getting assessed for an ED on Monday during my psych appointment, I reckon I meet criteria so I am anticipating another diagnosis. I know it explains my how I’ve been feeling but it’s another label, I hate feeling so broken and feeling like I’m complicated. I know my disordered eating habits are adversely affecting my mental and physical health, I’ve just been in denial for so long and would also get defensive when people commented on my eating habits or asked about them.

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tymeModerator25 Jan 2026, 6:10 pm AEDT

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That's a start in that you are better than what you used to be @creative_writer . Seek progress, not perfection?

Look after yourself, and all the best with whatever therapy you engage in. I was super interested to hear @BlueBay share about EMDR.

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AuntGlowModerator25 Jan 2026, 9:08 pm AEDT

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@creative_writer wrote:
@AuntGlow maturity comes with age and experience.

I’m just afraid of being let down by putting hope in the new meds. Maybe it’s just that I’ve already tried multiple ways to relieve the pain just to feel stuck in the end. I know it’s possible the meds might make a difference, but I feel conflicted on whether to put my hope in them or not. Maybe it’s the hopelessness of depression.

I think this is so, so understandable. It's very human to feel apprehensive or afraid when we have been disappointed or hurt... I wonder if exploring curiosity around the medication could be helpful? I say this because curiosity can take us out of the attachment to an outcome or feeling, and into a space of compassion. I get the sense this could help, but what are your thoughts? @creative_writer

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creative_writerSenior Contributor26 Jan 2026, 12:17 pm AEDT

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@tyme I am a perfectionist by nature. I’ve absorbed other people’s expectations. Our current self talk is often influenced by what other people have said about us.

@AuntGlow I could try to be curious and notice how I feel in the coming days and weeks. It takes weeks for it to work for depression. All I’ve noticed is feeling more calm and it’s become easier to resist urges. I’m trying to be realistic and I don’t know how I’ll feel in a few weeks, I guess I’ll take it day by day

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tymeModerator26 Jan 2026, 4:40 pm AEDT

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Hearin you about the perfectionism. I think over the years, I've learnt to let go. If I didn't, I'd never get anything done.

I used to even iron underwears, bed sheets etc! Now, it's whatever!!

It may be good to also remember that if/when you have kids, there's simple no time for perfection! They always spoil the perfection. e.g. you put on a lovely outfit for them and they go play in the dirt...

If we focus on the perfection, we may miss what's important @creative_writer

Just something to consider.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor26 Jan 2026, 5:27 pm AEDT

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@tyme I do struggle to get tasks done, but I think it will be a process for me. It has definitely interfered with my ability to function. The bipolar meds can be heavy cognitively, it makes it hard to function how I would otherwise. My brain is already ADHD at baseline, the meds don't help. My pdoc doesn't think ADHD meds are an option right now. I would probably need a longer period of stability before that is considered.

I've never been a perfectionist with ironing lol, more so with other aspects of my life. My sheets are always wrinkled, but I just can't be bothered. I know they would look nicer ironed, but how long with the ironing last? I toss and turn a lot, and I am a nighttime kicker. My underwear don't get wrinkled, so it would be pointless to iron those.

Kids will always be kids. I was never the kid who rolled around in the dirt, I didn't like getting dirty. I think from a young age I was preoccupied with the way I looked, so much so that my first word was mirror in my mother tongue

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tymeModerator26 Jan 2026, 6:32 pm AEDT

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What works best for you in terms of remember things and getting things done? @creative_writer I know lists work well for me. You got any other tips?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor26 Jan 2026, 7:12 pm AEDT

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@tyme lists can help, so can doing task in small chunks. I tend to feel better in the morning, it's easier to focus my attention to early in the day. Hopefully as the depression lifts, that window will expand. I think right now I need to acknowledge my limitations. I may not be able to do everything right now. I hate feeling limited, but I guess sometimes you have to accept where life is. The fogginess is a bit better than it used to be, but I am still pretty foggy. Depression also brings fogginess and I feel unable to do everything I used to be able to do. Before starting the new meds I was finding I was sleeping up 10 hours 20mins ish, sleep has become a bit more normal now, it's under 9 hours now. I guess it could've been worse, years back I once made it to 14 hours.

I also exercise, drink my matcha and take supplements to get that dopamine boost.

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tymeModerator26 Jan 2026, 7:46 pm AEDT

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So from your post, I can see that you HAVE improved @creative_writer I can see that self care is huge for you which is definitely a start.

Yes. I tend to break up big tasks into chunks and I write a list for each chunk so that I can have the dopamine hit from ticking it off @creative_writer I fid that really helps. Also, I reward myself after I have completed each 'chunk'. They may be little rewards such as looking at my phone, get for a quick walk, eating something etc.

I had a matcha today. I still haven't ventured to making my own yet.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor26 Jan 2026, 8:19 pm AEDT

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@tyme not sure if it’s just a me issue. The SANE forums are being a bit glitchy, can’t like any posts.

Self care takes a lot of time to build, but you do learn with time.

I think it’s easier once you break it into small chunks because you do get a sense of achievement and a dopamine boost. I like taking breaks to walk, drink tea, snack etc. I’ve been working on more regular meals since last year, I used to be so bad at it.

I do recommend making your own. You do need good quality matcha for it. Good quality matcha will be bright green. Brighter the green, the better. The highest quality grade matcha can be super pricey. I have decent grade matcha and it tastes good, but it’s not the highest grade. I went to tea ceremony a while back, their matcha felt stronger and was so vibrant, it was an amazing experience. I might get a bit of that high grade matcha and use it here and there

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tymeModerator26 Jan 2026, 8:47 pm AEDT

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The forums seem ok on my end. No issues at all @creative_writer I'll let you know if I have any issues though. Is it just slow to load?

As for Matcha, did you once say that the one from T2 was good?

Also, do you have yours with just water or milk too?

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