Mixed feelings-might be getting another diagnosis (ED)

Is there anything that you feel you're wanting from the community this afternoon @creative_writer?

Here to support you hun 💜

@Jynx I rather be numb than be called a “burden”. My temper gets the best of me. I know I don’t get physically aggressive or become verbally threatening. I just get frustrated at the smallest things.

I’ve just come back from a walk, managed it despite feeling exhausted and then on the way back I got a tinny aura. Might listen to music, but don’t really feel much rn, I guess listening to music about being numb will help me feel less alone? Have any ideas of what else I can do?

I don’t really feel safe feeling my emotions rn

@creative_writer hmm could help, music usually does for me.

You could create a thread about it, see what others in the community have experienced? Would help feel less alone for sure.

You can always come join the social chat if a distraction is maybe a little more approachable!

@creative_writer I think often people will demonise emotions that they themselves don't know how to sit with.

Oh love that idea!! It would make for quite an interesting check in space!

Is that how you'd want it to go, like a daily check in with a song? Or weekly, if that's what energy allows!! If you wanted to kick start it, but feel unsure about keeping it going all the time, you can always lean on us to help 😉

@creative_writer I think I remember talking about this in my Positive Psych unit hey - the difference between like, realistic optimism and idealistic optimism or something like that. Definitely helpful to build our thinking skills, but you're right that the 'positive vibes' notion is toxic hey.

Oh yeah I think I remember that thread! Keen to kick it off again? No idea how to find it tho lol

@creative_writer it's a tricky one - I think I get what it was getting at, but it was just taken too far.

I think of it like this. Someone who is holding onto the thought 'I am gonna make a lotta money' is more likely to strive for a promotion than someone who is holding onto the thought 'I hope I win some money'.

Our thoughts make our reality, so the more we tell ourselves we believe we will achieve or succeed in something, the more likely we are to persevere. Our minds have more power than I think we realise - but like even with the lottery example, let's say the whole law of attraction dealio actually worked. You still won't win cos a million other people are thinking the same way! 🤣

But, whether it works or doesn't work, either way I reckon that if you hold more firmly to a goal or desire (that is actually grounded in reality), you're more likely to get it than someone who wants the same thing but believes they won't get it. Does that make sense? Gee I hope so cos I gotta skedaddle soon 😅

I think that's kinda what positive psych was leaning into anyway hey!

I hope you have a nice evening hun and catch plenty of snoozles! 😉💜