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How to challenge your negative thoughts

How to challenge your negative thoughts

Hi @Shaz51 @Emelia8 @Eve7 @rav3n @tyme and others reading along -

I have been diagnosed with BPD, cPTSD, depression, anxiety, eating disorder. I am also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.

I saw my dr today and he has suggested that i try to 'challenge my thoughts'. I am at the moment on a huge downer with my depression - no motivation, no interest in much, can't be bothered, angry with myself etc etc etc and my negative thoughts are instant. Once these negative thoughts are with me I 'go with it' and it 'drags me into a spiral of negative self thoughts' (hope this makes sense!!)

my question is - how on earth do i challenge my negative thoughts?? That's not something i do myself because i get so absorbed by my own thoughts. It never occurs to me that i need to stop and challenge it.

If i am with my dr or psychiatrist and they point it out - then after a little while with them i can see it but don't believe it. (this is not making sense???)

i am struggling at the moment and don't know how to write this to you all

i get angry with my dr because he has no idea how hard it is to challenge those very strong negative thoughts

a lot of those thoughts have been ingrained in me since a child and a lot of them i believe to be true; the exact truth

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Thankyou lovely @Shaz51

enjoying my coffee with you

hugs

I need to do fruit and veg shop.
washings out.
sunny here as well!!!

Going to colour my greys at hairdresser this afternoon.

hope you have a nice day xxxx

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sounds good @BlueBay

Enjoy getting your hair done

I start decluttering my filing cabinet yesterday and all the stuff is on the bed in the spare bedroom

I know i should finish that project first , just finding the motivation to start 😁

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I am so ANGRY right now

can’t explain

home alone

waste of a day

i hate myself so much

angry

wish i could take this anger away

@Shaz51 @tyme @AuntGlow @rav3n

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I can’t calm down

need to I take something


I hate this life

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hey @BlueBay sounds like the appt with the new clinical psych went well but was also very exhausting. hope you were able to rest up and recharge over the weekend, did you get up to much? 💗

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Hey @BlueBay ,

How are you?

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Hi @tyme

Not in a good headspace

today is my mothers birthday

lots of anger and hate towards her

triggers memories

it really hurts

im seeing my psychiatrist tomo morning

I emailed her the other day with some worrying things sh

i guess she’ll want to talk about it but I’m not sure I can

I can’t explain how hurt I feel

the pain is so deep

hi @rav3n

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Hey @BlueBay ,

I hear your pain. I hear your hurt.

This has been going on for years and I can only imagine how much this day stings for you each year.

The big quetsion is, are you going to let her hold you down for the rest of your life?

I believe in you. You are better than that.

We hope you find a way to work through this. We are here for you.

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Hello @BlueBay,

Oh absolutely, connecting with our feelings can take so much out of us. Do you have a self-care plan for after therapy?

I am so glad she held a safe space for you, you absolutely deserve it.

Growing up this way would have been so painful... and it makes sense that these formative experiences affect you today. Your mum sounds like she projected so many of her own wounds onto you, and that wasn't okay. How you feel towards her is more than understandable.

I hope you know that things can change, you are capable of a flourishing and connected life - it will just take some time and support. 🥰

I know you say you doubt yourself and can't make decisions, but you have decided to leave your counsellor and explore a new psychologist - that was pretty brave and decisive. 🫶

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you've made it through the rough day @BlueBay sending you big hugs 💗

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