How to challenge your negative thoughts

@BlueBay I am glad you are feeling a good shift within yourself about those memories after the EMDR session. I guess your psychologist has a plan about dealing with it, which would help. I can relate to the importance of dealing with thoughts and memories that have been triggering and learning to regulate and not get too upset.

Its great you are going away on a holiday. You have to do what honestly is the best for your whole mental health. I am glad you have a friend for company on your dad's birthday.

hey @Appleblossom

you know my whole life i have never ever been away from my hubby and kids (apart from hospital stays).

Actually last year was the very first time I went away with three of my friends, we went away just for 2 nights. We had a ball, so much laughter!!

This Feb we are going to inland Victoria where there is a beautiful resort. It will be very hot but we have an indoor and outdoor pool. huge walking track. Two of us will share a unit and the other two will have another unit next door to each other. Part of me is excited but part of me is feeling guilty leaving hubby home. he will be fine and quite capable of cooking dinner but there's this little bit of guilt. it could be because i have been there for everyone and never for myself. We are going for a week!!

Memories and trauma trigger very easily and they are hard to 'just let go' or as some of my other so called friends would tell me 'just forget it' or 'just move on' - boy that bugs me so much. i get so damn angry.

I'm off to the beach soon, going to be a warm day today. Meeting my D and little A as well as my daughters fiance and his two girls. It will be a nice day. Hubby is at work, no day off for him!!

I hope you are doing ok and have a nice day today xxx

Sounds like a beautiful holiday. Your husband will be fine. Female bonding can be good. @BlueBay

Today also sounds like it will be good. Enjoy. Treasure the moments.

Our feelings are our feelings. I am learning to allow mine to flow more. I had to force mine down, but through music I am finding more emotional intelligence and awareness, as well as the social side of feelings and music. Yesterday doing a music workshop helped. The plan was going from deep sad sacred music through to joyous and rhthymic to finish. I really like the lady who conducted. She is coming back next year in January. It was very special.

OOOoo @BlueBay ! Great to hear you had so many laughs when you went away. You totally deserve it!

Go for it! Emjpy it. I'm sure hubby will be okay.

Let us know how it goes for you! I hope fires don't stop you going. There's fires popping up everywhere and Feb won't be different.

@BlueBay so glad to hear such a promising update from you hun, sounds like this new psych is a good fit! EMDR is wild, but it's amazing how much has already shifted for you!

Hope it continues, and that you are feeling held and supported along the way 🤞💜

Oh my goodness, this is incredible. 😍 I know you were feeling somewhat nervous and uncertain about EMDR and revisiting those memories, so to know that this has shifted your bodily response is really, really positive.

When will your next session be? 💛 @BlueBay

Hello my sister @BlueBay

thinking of you lots

and wondering how you are going xxx