I am not doing so well

Hi @Former-Member

Your welcome

Wishing you the best of luck in purchasing your dream home and I hope its everything you wished for and more. You deseve all the happiness in the world my friend. I do hope your husband's health continues to improve for him and your daughter is able to heal from her past truma, I believe she can do it, she just needs to raise above (shame feeling) not a small feat (big acheivement)- it will take a lot of courage but she can put this behind her and create a wonderful life for herself. I think she needs to put her focus on what she is good at and building that life she always dreamed about.

I think its wise and sensible that you follow up with with GP for a checkup and blood test.

I have just looked up where you might be able to find a exercise physiologist- you need to put your details in the boxes indicated and you will find a list of exercise physiologist in your area. Alternatively you could ask your GP who they recommend.

https://www.essa.org.au/find-aep/

Please let me know how you go this week with your sleep and I found also just writing somewhere what time you went to sleep and woke up help me also to get my sleep back on track. Hope you see you GP soon. Enjoy the sunshine my friend. I am always here for you.

Thank you @oceangirl. Such a wonderful post to receive, my husband thanks you too.

I just wish my daughter would stay away from people who hurt her - then she could heal. She has such low self esteem now. I am always encouraging, uplifting and advising her - but at that age they know it all. What more can I do. She has to keep learning the hard way and it's heartbreaking to watch because she will not listen. But on a positive note she has improved in the way she speaks to us and her moods aren't as erratic.

Being a mother I want "to fix her". But knowing that I can't, I just have to be there when it all falls apart. So hard.

That is why I must get my body clock back in order as I will need every ounce of my strength. I would of never believed it could be so hard. I will soak up that sunshine - thank you my friend. You are such a special person - one of the best. And I never say anything I don't mean. Do you have many plans for the weekend? I am going to prepare a nice meal and myself an hubby will watch a good flick on TV. Not very exciting but I enjoy peaceful evenings. Sending warm hugs 🤗 xx

@oceangirl Hope you have had a good day! Toby and I have been to the beach - my sister actually came and picked us up!!! Just resting at home now - tired (I wonder why!!!!!!!!!) and going to chill out on the couch tonight.

Kisses to you and Kira

Zoe

You are both welcome @Former-Member . It is wonderful to receive your message too

I am glad she has improved in the way she speaks to you and your husband. Perhaps she needs someone to talk to her other then her parents some times young adults don't listen to there parents- one day I am sure she will come back and thank you for all you have done for her. I do know the best people to help her are her parents because noone will love and care for her like her mum & dad.

I would encourage her to meet new people because she will experience new things and feel better about herself when surrounded by a better quality person and hopefully then she will make better choices in her friends. I just hope she can put her focus on what she is good at and further her skills and competencies in that area.

I do hear what you are saying though and how hard it is for you to watch her makes mistakes and I think if she is being taken advantage of by others, I would talk to her about it, I know you probably have but perhaps explain to her, how her choices will ultimately affect her quality of life. I know she is an adult but keep in mind her brain is not fully developed yet and she may not understand the impact of what may occur in the future.

I truly would focus in on what she is good at and that will improve her self esteem and confidence, and also to set some goals and that will also have the same effect for her. There are many options for young people- in terms of education, training and the workforce. She can also look at getting different scholarships for education or joining the miltary to have her education paid for and that might motivate her to make changes and hopefully better choices.

I am just staying in tonight and cooking a nice meal and about 8pm I am meeting a friend for coffee and cake and then I might come home and just watch a DVD. In the morning I am heading to the local swimming pool for a swim. I hope you have a peaceful and relaxing evening. Sending you lots of warm hugs....

@Zoe7I am glad to hear you got to the beach today and that would have been good for you- I am pleased you had some company with your sister. I think an early night and perhaps taking your meds soon and start unwinding and preparing for some sleep.

My day was better and just about to start on making some dinner. I am then heading out for an hour or so, I will probably will not be out too long. What time did you get to sleep- I went staraight to sleep last night and I was up at around 8.30am.

I am going to sign off for a bit and will check back in later. Kisses to you and Toby too.

oceangirl

@oceangirl I wasn't going to go to the beach today because I was too tired to drive - so it was really nice for my sister to call and then to pick us up. The walk was nice - a bit colder than I expected but not too bad. My sister was in a good mood - no dramas - just a nice time with her and her dog

I got to sleep just after 5!!!!! I slept for about four hours. I had another couple of hours sleep early this afternoon - I couldn't keep my eyes open so I just gave in and went back to bed. I am still tired tonight and I am hoping to get to bed much earlier - at least by pumpkin hour!

I am so glad that your day today was better Enjoy your dinner and your time out.

Chat later

Zoe

@Zoe7 I am glad to hear you had a nice time down at the beach with your sister. Sometimes its nicer to walk when its cooler outside. Make sure you rug up tonight with Toby or the cat.

It looks like Monday is going to be a sunny day for you, I would be getting plenty of sunshine.

I am still feeling a bit sick in stomach tonight thanks for the suggestion about the ginger- I don't have any ginger in the house but I do have a ginger beer, I might put a few bottles in the fridge.

I took Kira for a long walk this afternoon after I bathed her - we both had fun on the walk.

@oceangirlThe next week (until Friday) is supposed to be really nice - high 20s. I am actually thinking about finally getting stuck into sorting out the garage ... we will see what happens!!!!

Glad you had fun with Kira on your walk. I should have given Toby a bath too tonight but the poor little mite is so tired that I have just let him rest.

Just a suggestion with the ginger beer - open a bottle and let it go flat - so the bubbles don't aggrevate your stomach. I have a lot of ginger to help with my IBS and it really does help soften the pain - doesn't get rid of it completely but does make it easier to deal with.

Did you enjoy your time out tonight?

@Zoe7 I dd enjoy it but I was anxious though.

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@oceangirl What made you so anxious - anything you can put your finger on or just general anxiety being out?