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Wind-down Wednesdays

Wind-down Wednesdays

Welcome to Wind-down Wednesdays where we work through a new grounding or soothing tool on every third Wednesday! 🌺

The purpose of this thread is

  • To learn more about various grounding/soothing strategies (can add them into your self-care toolbox)
  • To understand why we do it and how it works in calming us down
  • To create a safe space for members to visit whenever they need to wind down and catch their breath. You can work on the strategy by yourself here, or tag community members to join you (please be mindful of our guidelines - remember that members may not always respond immediately, and let’s not place pressure on others to respond)
  • Promote self-care and self-reliance in regulating your emotions!

Got a grounding tool/soothing strategy you’d like to share on this thread? Email us (team@saneforums.org) to let us know and we’ll save you a Wednesday slot! 😊

The first grounding tool we’ll be exploring is the 3-3-3 technique.

3-3-3:

  • Name 3 things you see: scan the space around you. For each item you identify, really focus on the details of it – what colour is it? Is it heavy or light? Big or small? What’s the texture of the object?
  • Name 3 things you hear: what are some sounds near you or far from you, are they soft or loud? Listen closely to identify them.
  • Move 3 parts of your body: it can be light or dramatic movements such as slowly rolling your shoulders, clenching and unclenching your fists, wiggling your fingers and toes, jumping up and down, shaking your wrists, etc.

So how does this work?

Well, when we’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed, it can sometimes trigger a stress response where our body’s fight-flight-freeze system is activated, which you can learn more about here: The Four 'F' Trauma Responses - SANE Forums.

This system is typically activated when our body identifies a physical threat, our body enters a heightened state of arousal to help survive – this can look like increased heart rate, increased muscle tension, decreased appetite, etc. When our anxious thoughts keep activating this heightened state of arousal, it can lead to a very dysregulated nervous system where our bodies keep reacting out of proportion to the threat, making it hard to calm down.

Moving our focus from internal things (like anxious thoughts/feelings) to external things (like what we can see/hear), helps us slow things down and calm the stress response. It gives our body a chance to focus on things that it perceived as non-threatening (i.e. identifying a cup or a bird flying around), which gives our body a chance to slowly calm down.

Practicing grounding techniques regularly can help regulate the nervous system with time. For more information, feel free to read this article: 3-3-3 Rule for Anxiety: How to Use, Scientific Basis, Other Coping Strategies

Now let’s give it a go! Feel free to share the 3 things you saw, heard and the 3 body parts you moved – and any other reflections you’d like to add.

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Love this reflection! Thank you so much for sharing. @AlwaysMyself 🎶

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@rav3n
I attended a online medicine women festival there were ancient wisdom medicine was the theme traditional ways just wow i certainly happy to share my experience after my first session during the festival the experience of the soul singing . Hours and the movement and breathwork is all part of the process I had a massive shift in the tightness and pain i have and she uses different instruments to create music it seriously blew me away there were many different types of techniques shamanic drumming different types of meditation so glad I took the opportunity to be part of the festival and best of all it was free 10 days re watch events if you missed out they were having 2 to 3 events extremely grateful 🙏

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Oh, that sounds incredible and so grounding. @MedicinalGypsy 😍

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@rav3n I’ve always got the radio on in the car, quite often it’s just background noise.

I have an eclectic taste in music genre with cds to match.

when feeling really low and miserable my go to is songs from war times or military bands.

song that helps me at various times by Lauren Daigle

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqpNGYbcy3U

Song that first comes to my mind that makes my smile I had played at my late husbands funeral by Birds of Tokyo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTn66OaECss

music when I’m needing to concentrate is Human Nature

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i love reading anecdotes hehe thank you for sharing!! @AlwaysMyself omg the falling asleep 😆 so good that you switched to podcasts when you needed to be more alert!

i use music to tune things out too or as background music during tasks - i procrastinate (a lot) so having a familiar song sometimes helps me feel less overwhelmed by the task in hand.

i love pop and hip/hop rap music 😆 but i wouldn't call them 'relaxing' either haha (and i don't like some of the rap lyrics themes).
do you ever listen to the same song on repeat for a while? sometimes i'll go through phases where i repeat the same song again and again without feeling sick of it.

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@MedicinalGypsy oh wow, that sounds really interesting (and bonus that it's free for the 10 days!)

i can imagine how powerful breathwork and movement can be in healing/connecting the mind and body. look forward to hearing you experience ✨

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@Former-Member yesss i have heard 'you say' before, she has an amazing voice!!

the lyrics are so beautiful for both those songs, appreciate you sharing ✨

it's so lovely when a song holds special memories for us and brings a smile to our face.

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I would very rarely put a single song on repeat @rav3n , but maybe listen to a song a second time if it feels "very right" at the time. 🙂

I'm currently trying to prepare a mock presentation for a job interview (the presentation is a mock, not the interview lol) and I felt so unmotivated to do it (just want to rest or comfort eat or zone out), so I've put on some music to help me focus. 🙂

(And using checking forum notification as break times of course lol 🤭)

@MedicinalGypsy that sounds like a great festival event. 🙂 im glad you went and found it really helpful

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@AlwaysMyself that's so fair! my sister's like that too, so when we drive together i give her control of the playlist so that my song repetitions don't drive her mad 😅

ooo may i ask what the job interview is for? that's been me with some applications i need to get done, i've just been zoning out... but i'm going to try do same as you tonight and push through.

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Its for a role that would be researching, planning/co-designing, and implementing service delivery improvements to the local government's service centre (the place you get your license, or submit forms, pay your rego, etc all those local government services). Got an interview this week upcoming.

Had an interview 2 weeks ago for a service desk manager role. Haven't heard back yet, so most likely didnt get it, but that isnt too surprising. Im glad I got an interview though, cos thats pretty good in itself. 🙂

I wonder if I could start a "job seeking help/advice" thread, perhaps in work/study space? Do you think that would be of interest/help to people?

Im generally happy to give people some tips/advice on writing job applications and how to frame or transfer their existing skills and experience into a new role.

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