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Wind-down Wednesdays

Wind-down Wednesdays

Welcome to Wind-down Wednesdays where we work through a new grounding or soothing tool on every third Wednesday! 🌺

The purpose of this thread is

  • To learn more about various grounding/soothing strategies (can add them into your self-care toolbox)
  • To understand why we do it and how it works in calming us down
  • To create a safe space for members to visit whenever they need to wind down and catch their breath. You can work on the strategy by yourself here, or tag community members to join you (please be mindful of our guidelines - remember that members may not always respond immediately, and let’s not place pressure on others to respond)
  • Promote self-care and self-reliance in regulating your emotions!

Got a grounding tool/soothing strategy you’d like to share on this thread? Email us (team@saneforums.org) to let us know and we’ll save you a Wednesday slot! 😊

The first grounding tool we’ll be exploring is the 3-3-3 technique.

3-3-3:

  • Name 3 things you see: scan the space around you. For each item you identify, really focus on the details of it – what colour is it? Is it heavy or light? Big or small? What’s the texture of the object?
  • Name 3 things you hear: what are some sounds near you or far from you, are they soft or loud? Listen closely to identify them.
  • Move 3 parts of your body: it can be light or dramatic movements such as slowly rolling your shoulders, clenching and unclenching your fists, wiggling your fingers and toes, jumping up and down, shaking your wrists, etc.

So how does this work?

Well, when we’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed, it can sometimes trigger a stress response where our body’s fight-flight-freeze system is activated, which you can learn more about here: The Four 'F' Trauma Responses - SANE Forums.

This system is typically activated when our body identifies a physical threat, our body enters a heightened state of arousal to help survive – this can look like increased heart rate, increased muscle tension, decreased appetite, etc. When our anxious thoughts keep activating this heightened state of arousal, it can lead to a very dysregulated nervous system where our bodies keep reacting out of proportion to the threat, making it hard to calm down.

Moving our focus from internal things (like anxious thoughts/feelings) to external things (like what we can see/hear), helps us slow things down and calm the stress response. It gives our body a chance to focus on things that it perceived as non-threatening (i.e. identifying a cup or a bird flying around), which gives our body a chance to slowly calm down.

Practicing grounding techniques regularly can help regulate the nervous system with time. For more information, feel free to read this article: 3-3-3 Rule for Anxiety: How to Use, Scientific Basis, Other Coping Strategies

Now let’s give it a go! Feel free to share the 3 things you saw, heard and the 3 body parts you moved – and any other reflections you’d like to add.

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for sure! getting interviews aren't easy, and regardless of whether you get the role - it's usually a really good learning experience. the local gov service role sounds really interesting!! wish you all the best with the interview 💙

yes for sure, love that idea! i had a quick look through the Employment, education and training space, and it doesn't seem like anyone's posted a similar thread recently - would be nice to get a fresh thread on it!

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Hi @rav3n and others here. What a great topic you’ve posted - music- so thanks for posting it. I also like this thread Wind-down Wednesdays so please keep me tagged for new topics!

As for music, I’m a person who really enjoys music as I find that I can relate to certain songs, bands, artists, etc, at certain times, especially if I’m going through difficult times. Music is a great motivation for me as I often put on certain songs to get me to do things, including if I’m anxious about doing something and don’t really want to do it. For example Kylie Minogues ‘I was gonna cancel’ is a great motivation song for me, along with Casey Barnes ‘Better Days’ and John Farnham ‘In days to come’. I also like The Wolfe Brothers song ‘What you make it’ as well. I have a playlist of songs on my iPhone called Motivation Music that I listen to a lot of the time. I also have other playlists on my phone for certain moods, including a list to play when I’m feeling unwell.

My tastes in music vary from Taylor Swift to The Wolfe Brothers, Kaylee Bell, Casey Barnes, John Farnham, Jimmy Barnes, Lee Kernaghan, Birds of Tokyo, lots of 80s music, ABBA due to Mamma Mia movies, Richard Marx, Pitbull, Matchbox 20, Kylie Minogue - her earlier music, Amy Shark, Poison, Bon Jovi, Def Leppard and Sheppard. I’m not a fan of the 90s grunge era music - my teenage years- and classical/opera isn’t my scene. Meditation music is okay at times but not something I usually prefer, despite lots of mental health facilities and services promoting the benefits of it. I also do go through periods where I enjoy silence, such as when I need to focus on tasks requiring lots of concentration when I’ve been studying or working on a complex knitting, crochet or cross stitch pattern. I also like the sound of rain and thunder when I experience it and waves crashing on the beach - the calm app used to have free nature sounds but I’m not sure if they do anymore.

Judi9877

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thanks for sharing @Judi9877!! i'll definitely tag you in the next one too 😊

yesss i love creating playlists to match certain moods! loving the range of music you're into.

i feel the same about silence when needing to concentrate. there's times where i'll start an activity with music (for comfort and motivation) and then half way through the activity, i'll turn of the music because i'm so into the task and the music's turned into a distraction!

i have used the calm app in the past too, but i'm not sure if sounds are still free either. i hope they are!

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Hello @rav3n , @Judi9877 , @AlwaysMyself , @Former-Member , @AuntGlow 😎

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hi everyone!! welcome back to wind-down wednesdays 💙

today we're exploring probably one of the more common grounding tools - the 5 senses!

the 5 senses tool is great for redirecting our attention especially when we're feeling triggered. it gives us the opportunity to pause and ground our selves by focusing on our present surroundings rather than our internal thoughts/feelings. sometimes when my mind has 20 things going on at once, i like to do this exercise to slow things down.

so if you've got a minute or 2 to spare - find yourself a comfy spot, join us in the 5 senses exercise:

What do you I see?

  • what colour is it? how big or small is it?

What object can you feel/touch?

  • what's the texture like? does it feel heavy or light? is it sharp, soft, smooth, etc?

What can you hear?

  • are the sounds near or far? loud or soft? repetitive or one-off?

What can you smell?

  • is the scent strong or weak?

What can you taste?

  • is it sweet, sour, fresh, etc?

you can pick one for each category, or some times, people do 5 sight, 4 touch/feel, 3 sounds, 2 smells and 1 taste. please feel free to share your responses below!

p.s. the extra questions around the colour, texture, etc., are optional - usually the more details you focus on in your external environment, the less you'll be focused on your internal thoughts during the exercise.

@Shaz51 @Judi9877 @AlwaysMyself @Former-Member @AuntGlow @MedicinalGypsy @Snowie @The-red-centaur @Eve7 @Cuddlebear @Appleblossom @outlander @Former-Member @NightFury @Captain24 @MissGremlin @Bill16 @StuF @TAB @Meowmy @Sparky79 @Bunniekins @Jellybeans25 @Rahrah1 @Clawde @oceangirl @Till23 @Lowrida29 @Kashmina @AlwaysMyself @Oaktree @Moose123 + feel free to tag anyone you'd think would be interested!

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@rav3n

What do you I see? (5) Television , fan, cup of coffee , phone , Light

  • what color is it? how big or small is it?

What object can you feel/touch? (4) my phone ,/ cup of coffee / breeze from the fan brightness from the light

  • what's the texture like? does it feel heavy or light? is it sharp, soft, smooth, etc?

What can you hear? (3) The Fan / traffic / Ice cream van

  • are the sounds near or far? loud or soft? repetitive or one-off?

What can you smell? (2) Coffee / Fruit cake

  • is the scent strong or weak?

What can you taste? (1) Fruit cake / Coffee

  • is it sweet, sour, fresh, etc?

you can pick one for each category, or sometimes, people do 5 sight, 4 touch/feel, 3 sounds, 2 smells and 1 taste. please feel free to share your responses below!

@Chasingsunsets

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Hi queen!! How are you today? @Shaz51

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Going OK @AuntGlow @rav3n

How about you

Did some dusting of some of my teapots collection

And put baking soda on our carpets in the bedrooms as they smell mouldy

This afternoon nothing as it is 31 degrees amd now have the aircon on

@tyme

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@Shaz51 i haven't heard an ice cream van in ages!! such a nostalgic sound hehe, thanks for sharing 💙

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@Shaz51 an ice cream van? 😍. in 31 degrees I bet they do some good business. Too hot for me!

See: My lap-table (it's got a green background with flowers)

Touch: The feeling of the laptop keys and mousepad

Hear: The high-pitched buzz of electricity. ...and the clacking of my laptop keys...

Smell: Nothing actually! There is no scent I can tell. But I'm sure if I lift my armpit...

Taste: Nothing. My saliva in my mouth does not appear to have any taste.

Shaz's answers were much more interesting -- maybe I needed an iced coffee to smell and taste 😋

I first learnt this technique using Fruit and Nut Chocolate (with a psychologist) lol. A tasty way to learn it.

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