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Wind-down Wednesdays

Wind-down Wednesdays

Welcome to Wind-down Wednesdays where we work through a new grounding or soothing tool on every third Wednesday! 🌺

The purpose of this thread is

  • To learn more about various grounding/soothing strategies (can add them into your self-care toolbox)
  • To understand why we do it and how it works in calming us down
  • To create a safe space for members to visit whenever they need to wind down and catch their breath. You can work on the strategy by yourself here, or tag community members to join you (please be mindful of our guidelines - remember that members may not always respond immediately, and let’s not place pressure on others to respond)
  • Promote self-care and self-reliance in regulating your emotions!

Got a grounding tool/soothing strategy you’d like to share on this thread? Email us (team@saneforums.org) to let us know and we’ll save you a Wednesday slot! 😊

The first grounding tool we’ll be exploring is the 3-3-3 technique.

3-3-3:

  • Name 3 things you see: scan the space around you. For each item you identify, really focus on the details of it – what colour is it? Is it heavy or light? Big or small? What’s the texture of the object?
  • Name 3 things you hear: what are some sounds near you or far from you, are they soft or loud? Listen closely to identify them.
  • Move 3 parts of your body: it can be light or dramatic movements such as slowly rolling your shoulders, clenching and unclenching your fists, wiggling your fingers and toes, jumping up and down, shaking your wrists, etc.

So how does this work?

Well, when we’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed, it can sometimes trigger a stress response where our body’s fight-flight-freeze system is activated, which you can learn more about here: The Four 'F' Trauma Responses - SANE Forums.

This system is typically activated when our body identifies a physical threat, our body enters a heightened state of arousal to help survive – this can look like increased heart rate, increased muscle tension, decreased appetite, etc. When our anxious thoughts keep activating this heightened state of arousal, it can lead to a very dysregulated nervous system where our bodies keep reacting out of proportion to the threat, making it hard to calm down.

Moving our focus from internal things (like anxious thoughts/feelings) to external things (like what we can see/hear), helps us slow things down and calm the stress response. It gives our body a chance to focus on things that it perceived as non-threatening (i.e. identifying a cup or a bird flying around), which gives our body a chance to slowly calm down.

Practicing grounding techniques regularly can help regulate the nervous system with time. For more information, feel free to read this article: 3-3-3 Rule for Anxiety: How to Use, Scientific Basis, Other Coping Strategies

Now let’s give it a go! Feel free to share the 3 things you saw, heard and the 3 body parts you moved – and any other reflections you’d like to add.

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@Snowie @Eve7 that's absolutely fair, we all have our own preference! i think i might've recalled one of you sharing that nature sounds were more calming than songs? (correct me if i'm wrong!)

do you both like listening to nature sounds (rain/lightning, ocean crashing, forest sounds, etc) instead? or would you much rather silence/no sounds?

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@rav3n I prefer silence. Can go the whole day without tv on or some sort of sound going. I have tried listening to nature sounds from an app. But even then I didn't find it calming or soothing.

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@rav3n

Music is Huge in my life (in terms of listening, at least).

I own too much of it, so it's hard to choose...but for "soothing/relaxing/something along those lines" this album is way up there for me 🙂

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGnO5D9O_SVDmqhf8SJ6kyJm3XF9-epLM

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@Snowie although i LOVE music, there have been times i've been overstimulated and wanted silence so i can recharge. it is quite peaceful, i can see why you'd prefer it ✨

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it's like, electronic meets nature! there's a part in 'mountain goat' that i like, it sounds like what i imagine levitation would feel like.
i haven't heard much music like this before, it's pretty cool! appreciate you sharing @StuF✨

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@rav3n

Thank you for the reminder 🙏✨️

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no worries at all! @MedicinalGypsy do you find certain types of music soothing too?

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@rav3n Absolutely 💯 I also listen to motivational songs by Lukis Mac, I am starting soul singing and somatic movement next Wednesday I've felt unheard for a long time im looking forward to seeing the outcome of this ❤️🙌

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@MedicinalGypsy soul singing and somatic movement sounds really interesting! i'd love to know how it goes for you, somatic movement is something i've been interested in trying too 😊

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Oh I love this post @rav3n ! Whilst I have never been a big music person, I have definitely noticed how music interacts with my mood and sleep!

This might be a long answer - people please feel free not to read if you dont care for my anecdotes! 😅

I used to use music to help me fall asleep. However, I stopped doing that when I got my car license because I found that on monotonous car drives (I had a 1hr highway drive to work back then) I would start to feel drowsy because I had music on in the car. 🤭 so then I started to read before bed to wind down to sleep, but then I did university and found that I started falling asleep reading textbooks because of that pattern too. 🤭 now I listen to podcasts which keep my brain engaged mental until I drift off.

Back to music and mood. I enjoy rock and metal music (but not thrash), and used to listen to some as a teen, but found that many of the lyrics (which is very important to me in a song) were very depressing and negatively affected my mood and encouraged my negative thinking about the world. So I decided to change to listen only to christian rock and metal - as they tend to have some form of a positive messaging or hope in their song lyrics even if it might be a bit of a sad or angry song.

I do find the slower metalcore ballards are good for when I feel sad or lonely. The more upbeat heavier ones are good when I feel angry and help me move to a calmer less angry mood through expressing energies. And then there is occasionally some funnier or more 'popish' rocks songs mixed in by the artists which are good if I need to stay awake driving or doing exercise.

I also find music helps me focus at work when working on mundane work (like document editing), or to help tune out other background noise in the office (like others talking).

I do like the sound of the rain.

But most other "relaxation music" would irk me and not be enjoyable lol. But so would a range of other types of music like Rap and Hip Hop. 😅 and a lot of Pop music.

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