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Wind-down Wednesdays

Wind-down Wednesdays

Welcome to Wind-down Wednesdays where we work through a new grounding or soothing tool on every third Wednesday! 🌺

The purpose of this thread is

  • To learn more about various grounding/soothing strategies (can add them into your self-care toolbox)
  • To understand why we do it and how it works in calming us down
  • To create a safe space for members to visit whenever they need to wind down and catch their breath. You can work on the strategy by yourself here, or tag community members to join you (please be mindful of our guidelines - remember that members may not always respond immediately, and let’s not place pressure on others to respond)
  • Promote self-care and self-reliance in regulating your emotions!

Got a grounding tool/soothing strategy you’d like to share on this thread? Email us (team@saneforums.org) to let us know and we’ll save you a Wednesday slot! 😊

The first grounding tool we’ll be exploring is the 3-3-3 technique.

3-3-3:

  • Name 3 things you see: scan the space around you. For each item you identify, really focus on the details of it – what colour is it? Is it heavy or light? Big or small? What’s the texture of the object?
  • Name 3 things you hear: what are some sounds near you or far from you, are they soft or loud? Listen closely to identify them.
  • Move 3 parts of your body: it can be light or dramatic movements such as slowly rolling your shoulders, clenching and unclenching your fists, wiggling your fingers and toes, jumping up and down, shaking your wrists, etc.

So how does this work?

Well, when we’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed, it can sometimes trigger a stress response where our body’s fight-flight-freeze system is activated, which you can learn more about here: The Four 'F' Trauma Responses - SANE Forums.

This system is typically activated when our body identifies a physical threat, our body enters a heightened state of arousal to help survive – this can look like increased heart rate, increased muscle tension, decreased appetite, etc. When our anxious thoughts keep activating this heightened state of arousal, it can lead to a very dysregulated nervous system where our bodies keep reacting out of proportion to the threat, making it hard to calm down.

Moving our focus from internal things (like anxious thoughts/feelings) to external things (like what we can see/hear), helps us slow things down and calm the stress response. It gives our body a chance to focus on things that it perceived as non-threatening (i.e. identifying a cup or a bird flying around), which gives our body a chance to slowly calm down.

Practicing grounding techniques regularly can help regulate the nervous system with time. For more information, feel free to read this article: 3-3-3 Rule for Anxiety: How to Use, Scientific Basis, Other Coping Strategies

Now let’s give it a go! Feel free to share the 3 things you saw, heard and the 3 body parts you moved – and any other reflections you’d like to add.

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@rav3n thank you for your support

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Hi all! Another Wind-down Wednesdays post coming through! 💗

I don't know about you all, but August has been a LOT for me! I've noticed that I've been listening to a lot more music and really 'feeling' the music too... which leads us into our next topic:

Music!

How does music help us?

It can bring us joy, build a sense of connection (to others or perhaps to the song itself), making us feel less alone. It can help us feel relaxed, calm and even assist with falling asleep.

  • Some studies say that music that’s around 60 beats per minute can cause the brain to synchronize with the beat causing alpha brainwaves. This alpha brainwave is what is present when we are relaxed and conscious.
  • Some researchers have said that "listening to music seems to be able to change brain functioning to the same extent as medication."

Music is something that almost anybody can access and makes it an easy stress reduction tool.

What type of music helps calm us?

  • Native American, Celtic, Indian stringed-instruments, drums, and flutes are very effective at relaxing the mind even when played moderately loud.
  • Sounds of rain, thunder, and nature sounds may also be relaxing particularly when mixed with other music, such as light jazz, classical (the "largo" movement), and easy listening music.
  • Sometimes it's not about the genre - it's about finding the harmonious and rhythmic patterns that align with your emotions. Whether you’re drawn to calming classical melodies or the upbeat rhythms of rock, trying out different music styles can help you find what truly helps you unwind. It may change depending on your emotions and that’s okay too!

Note: whether YOU like the music being played or not will largely determine whether you find the music calming/relaxing.

Some may relax you, some may not. Forcing yourself to listen to relaxation music that irritates you can create tension, not reduce it.

If you’d like to learn more and find some music to trial out, check out this page here:

Questions (feel free to answer any/all):

  • What type of music/sounds soothe you? Is there a tune that never fails to bring a smile to your face?
  • Have you noticed a difference in the type of music you’re drawn to when you’re experiencing various emotions?
  • Are there any music-related tools you’ve found useful? (i.e. apps, instruments, videos, etc)

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Thanks for tag @rav3n , I'm a firm believer in frequencies which tie into energy healing.

I have been listening to many different healing frequency tracks, binaural beats is also good as well.

But I love my happy hardcore / uk hardcore, with its upbeat energetic fast tracks, it gets the heart going in the morning.

I recently read / watched something on humming and it's benefits. Apparently humming can stop any thoughts you are having at that time, so I'm definitely giving that a go.

Here's a track that I've been hooked on lately, which has a 432hz frequency mixed with it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PFqbA8JEzmQ

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@rav3n

  • What type of music/sounds soothe you? Is there a tune that never fails to bring a smile to your face? i love this one i was having a gay moment and this song stuck in my mind for weeks about a woman who was beautiful inside and out https://youtu.be/pCW1AquR7OY?list=RDMM
  • Have you noticed a difference in the type of music you’re drawn to when you’re experiencing various emotions? yes when i was a moody dark angst ridden teen i loved post punk culture eg:the cure, joy division. music that i felt safe with.

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Hi @rav3n

A great topic.

I am one of those that hates most music. I will listen to it in my car but that's it.

It doesn't matter the type, I just cannot connect with it. I find that it irritates me more than having a calming effect. Even audio books don't agree with me.

I guess we are all different 🤷‍♀️

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I’m with you on this one @Snowie

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This track @Bunniekins !

If I'm ever "in love", this is a go to!

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Thanks for the tag @rav3n

Good topic 🙂

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@Former-Member yesss i like a bit of hardstyle and upbeat music, especially when i'm at gym. i was talking to @Captain24 about Solfeggio frequencies a few months ago actually, i remember using it for a short while but it did help my mind quieten.

i do believe sound frequencies can have an impact on our body and mind, i haven't tested out which frequency works best for me yet but i do really like the one you sent. i now have an urge to listen to it in a forest-like setting though.

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@Bunniekins @StuF i don't usually listen to that genre of music but i actually liked it, especially the chorus! maybe this is a sign for me to expand my music taste 😎

angsty teen phases lead to discovering the best music!! recently i've been loving anything that has electric guitars and drums (like 'so far so fake' by pierce the veil).

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