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@MissGremlin @Hello my friend. How are you feeling today?

I have nothing in today … at home on weekend.

Hello @Cuddlebear my sweet, I'm feeling very low today (I'm safe). I'm still in bed but I need to go to the shops, it's just so much effort.

How are you going?

I've made it up to the local shops today currently @MissGremlin . Wish i could do your shopping for you whilst i am here lol. 😅. I was persuaded to walk to shops for lunch, so now ive stayed back to sit at a cafe and forum. And a friend is gping to meet me for a drink with her bub here sometime too.

@Chasingsunsets @MissGremlin @Cuddlebear

My dogs have met cats to varying degrees. Both love to watch cats, and one in particular wishes she could go up to them and sniff them (as with all animals lol). I visited a friends house after a dog walk once and i forgot she had a cat also (plus her 2 dogs). I saw her cat slink past into a bedroom and thats how i realised lol - dogs were all offlead indoor too. But i know my dogs are not prey-driven, they are play-driven. So i asked what would happen if my dogs got too close and the cat didnt like it (would it run?) And her cat has no problem turning around and hissing, which would scare my dogs away lol. When my dogs stayed with their breeder/rescue when i was on holidays her cat went into their yard, expecting the breeders usual dogs who ignore it 🤣. My dogs ran down to say hello to it enthusiastically, and it just hissed at them and they ran away 🤣🤣.

I am glad my dogs are curious of other animals but not prey-aggressive. One of them has sniffed chicken and rabbits through mesh. She also met a cow nose-to-nose. But she was scared of the flock of sheep in the paddock even though we were on the other side of a fence 😅. Definitely not a sheep-dog. She was also scared of the donkey when it came close to the fence haha.

@MissGremlin Gremlins eating support button again!

Did you manage to make it to the shops lovely? I know it’s a big effort so if you didn’t make it don’t be hard on yourself.

I had a terrible encounter today thwts left me shaken. Someone in my family a male found out where I lived came here and family violence towards me. I’m safe now but I’m really feeling unwell. I’ve sat in the same spot most of the day completely frozen and anxious.

@Cuddlebear oh sweetheart I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm here with you beautiful, sending you hugs ❤️.

I did make it to the shop, it took alot out of me though.

@Cuddlebear

Thank you for telling us, and I’m really sorry this happened to you. What you experienced sounds frightening, and your reaction makes sense. When someone threatens or harms us, the body can go into shock or “freeze mode.” Sitting still, feeling frozen, shaky, nauseous, or intensely anxious afterward is a very common trauma response — it doesn’t mean you’re weak or doing anything wrong.

I’m really glad to hear you’re safe right now. Your safety is the most important thing. 💛

As a moderator, I want to gently encourage a few important things:

• Please make sure a trusted person knows what happened. You shouldn’t have to handle this alone.

• If there is any chance this person could come back or you feel unsafe at any point, it’s okay and important to contact emergency services or a local crisis line for immediate support.

• After something like this, feeling “unwell” can be your nervous system still on high alert. If you can, try one small grounding step — for example:

  • Put your feet flat on the floor and name 5 things you can see, 4 you can feel, 3 you can hear

  • Take slow breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth

  • Wrap up in a blanket or hold something solid and comforting

None of this erases what happened, but it can help your body slowly come out of that frozen state.

You did the right thing by reaching out here. You’re not overreacting, and you’re not alone. Please keep yourself connected to safe people and supports tonight. We’re thinking of you and want you safe. 💙

@MissGremlin Thank you. I’m in shock it’s happened.

I am so glad you did go out to the shops and you should feel proud of that. It’s a big thing to do.

Are you going to watch some more Buffy while having a rest?

@RadAcceptance20 Thank you so much. You’ve really helped me feel that what I’m feeling is normal and some good options to use too.

I wasn’t sure if peer support workers were back today or not so I really appreciate you reaching out.

@Cuddlebear being in shock is not surprising sweet. It should not have happened and you did not deserve it at all.

I'm just sitting here playing with my magnetic balls at the moment. Colour sorting them to keep my hands busy.

@Cuddlebear

You’re very welcome — I’m really glad our response helped and that you felt supported. 💛 What you’re feeling is valid, and it matters.

Please continue to be gentle with yourself today and lean on the options that feel safest for you.

Take care of yourself, and thank you for letting us know how you’re doing. We’re glad you’re here. 💙