BlackcloudSenior Contributor
When did you start feeling in control with your life?
I saw that an online friend of mine posted a thread with the same question on a completely different forum so I thought I can ask the same on here as well, just because I thought it was a really interesting question, and I’m curious to read and know some answers from you guys.
Well me personally, that’s something I still struggle with to this day. Even though I’ve learnt that we can’t control other people with the way they act/think/say even when you don’t like a certain thing that they do that annoys you which you unfortunately can’t control, but you can control the way you see, react, and think of it. This is something I still struggle to accept. I’m someone who finds it a lot easier to change myself when that person that I’m upset with changes themselves first. It’s not like I can change before that person starts to change, and this goes for my parents, my sister, everyone else in our extended family basically, and whoever else I know of…. like whenever my mum says things to me that I don’t even agree with and even TRIES to get me to follow on what she says (unfortunately a lot of times I DO end up following on what she tells me otherwise because of her trying to pressure me and telling me all of these ‘risks’ and things) but everytime I think about it (but also in the moment she tells me) I get angry as a result and become full-on in defense mode by yelling at her when I don’t accept and agree on what she tells me. I really want my whole life to be 100% free from EVERYTHING that she tells and tries to control me to do otherwise. I know that I’m not obliged to follow on whatever she tells me or wants me to do otherwise everytime if I was to tell her something, including a decision I’ve made that she’s “worried” or concerned for me about.
Like why do you care about what I do on the day that I’ll be busy on - after I tell you that I’m busy on that day, yet I feel obliged to even tell you it after you want to know about it? And why do you want me to send you images of what my new room looks like for proof that I’ve moved into a “nice” room, even to the extend to even COME to my accomodation and then forcing me to come and show you my new room!!!????
Or why do you want me to take pictures of my workplace and send those to you for proof that I’m actually working at that specific job that I told you?
also why do you care so much about wanting me to be in a relationship in my 20s, when we can LITERALLY wait to be in a relationship whenever that time is SUITABLE for us!!!!!!!!
To all the users that are reading this, now I’d like to know from you guys as to when you guys began to feel in control with your lives? 🙂
