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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer I'm glad you've been able to recognise what might be going on hun, and that you've found a good match with the psych!
Aww yes that sounds sooo nice and good for the soul!! And hopefully you and your psych can unpack these feelings together and make a bit more sense of things 🤞💜
I shall bid you nighty night! 😊 Hope tomorrow is chill, and you get plenty of rest tween now and then 😌
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AuntGlowModerator
Good evening @creative_writer, I just wanted to check-in and see how you are tonight. How was your weekend? ✨
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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AuntGlowModerator
@creative_writer I am so glad to hear that your sleep has improved and the agitation has decreased - big win. 🥳
I understand things taking time to recalibrate, this is very normal.
Ow, migraines are the absolute worst... I used to get them a lot, with the auras too. I hope you are finding some time to eat, hydrate, and rest some more. 💛
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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AuntGlowModerator
@creative_writer experiencing a lot of flashbacks would be immensely triggering, I am sure. I think that really slowing things down, especially with your migraine, could be helpful tonight. What do you have planned?
I get being afraid that you may come across like you are overreacting, but trust that you are not. Your feelings and experiences will always be held here.
I think the best way to go about this is by slowly sharing your story in safe spaces. Unlocking all of our trauma at once can flood the nervous system, so we want to make sure we're sharing intentionally. It is absolutely possible to heal parts of your trauma without delving into all of the details. My psychologist is a big supporter of somatics, and encourages following the feeling, expressing it, and allowing it to shift organically - of course some narrative might come about with this too, but it comes from being held in the experience of safely expressing the feeling first. Does that make sense?
Please know that you are not crazy, you're just learning as you go. It's okay to take your time sharing. Can you let your psychologist know that this is how you are feeling?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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AuntGlowModerator
@creative_writer These sound like really lovely ways to take care of yourself this evening. What music have you been listening to lately? 🎶
Honestly, I think it's amazing that you know yourself this well. You have wonderful insight, and I believe it will only grow the more you listen to it. 🥰 It's okay to not share everything and to be honest with your psychologist. A good therapist will meet you where you're at and only challenge you when it is appropriate and you have developed that sense of safety/rapport with them.
I would love to hear how you go with exploring this. 💛
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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