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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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JynxModerator
I think you just answered your own question? @creative_writer repressing emotions is not good for us!!
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer You could try having a chat to the stubbornness to find out what it's trying to protect you from?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer all very legit concerns - however none of that is guaranteed, and there's also quite a reasonable chance you would end up feeling better.
So you can weigh it up for yourself I guess - is the risk of rejection but also reward worth it, or would it be better to continue as is?
This is how I often work through my anxieties. Find out what the true fear is, the one my anxiety is trying to steer me away from, and try to figure out if it really is a worse outcome than what I put my body through when I let anxious me run the show.
Maybe tonight the risk of judgement IS worse than just holding on. Not for me to say. But maybe this helps you figure out what you're needing?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer ooh yes good idea to reach out to sane tomorrow! And yeah like legit, if being on hold would push you further into that territory of overwhelm/meltdown, then pop it on the backburner for now.
Yeah for sure hun. Having that safe space to vent is super important.
Have you considered joining like a support group or something?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer you looked into our Recovery Club? Might be exactly what you're looking for. That anonymity is such an important factor, hey!! It's very hard also to detangle ourselves from the values we were steeped in as a child.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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