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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer yeah it's a constant slog, untangling from these narratives that are inherently rife with shame and stigma. But we definitely do find places to fit in - often with all the other folks who don't fit in! Oddballs are the best 😊
That child is totally still inside you!! Whenever you frolic, get joy from simple pleasures, or do silly things to make yourself happy, that's your inner child out to play 😉
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer see I don't think we lose it at all, I think it's squashed out of us!! We're surrounded by this idea that to behave in a childish manner is 'immature' and a sign of weakness or something. But realistically, suppressing the silly is really bad for us!
One of my fav quotes:
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer precisely!!! You get it!!
Hmm maybe then part of your inner child work could be to let loose and do all the stuff that young you felt she couldn't do cos of it being childish!!
Good excuse to go be a big pile of silly 😋
I best be off hun, hope you find yourself embracing some inner silly tomorrow!! Teehee night night 💜
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
@Jynx it is definitely a good excuse to behave like a child. I hope you slept well last night 💓, I fell asleep early and slept a lot. I may have slept too much.
I have this hollow feeling and I don't know why. I'm too tired and too apathetic to feel motivated to do anything. I don't have it in me
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JynxModerator
Noooo not the oversleep!
Could be just an 'empty gas tank' @creative_writer?
What you been up to today?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer usually anger tends to be a) a response to another painful emotion like pain or hurt and b) a motivator towards something that we hope will fulfill an unmet need. That's how I conceptualise it anyway.
Stuff like sensory overwhelm, that builds really slowly, is an unmet need (bodily rest) that can result in quite explosive anger for me, and often I don't even realise it's happening till it's too late. Could be something like that? Or does this feel different-y?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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