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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer oh hun, sounds super rough! Anything ignite the agitation?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer hmm... I wonder if it's the ongoing impacts of both burnout and interruption to routine?
As a lil thought experiment - take a moment to picture what your day would look like if your MH was just not going to get in the way. How would you want your ideal day to unfold?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
Totally hearing you @creative_writer which is precisely why I was encouraging you to have a think about what things might look like for you if your mental health wasn't as impactful!! It's real easy to get comfortable in the misery, and when it takes over so many aspects of our lives, we can very easily lose sight of our goals, and maybe even toss them into the 'too hard basket' subconsciously, and thus subconsciously, we stop moving toward them. I've found that the clearer the image is, this image of what kind of life I want to lead, the more I end up moving towards it.
You don't have to do jack btw - if you're not in the headspace for this kind of reflection that is super legit. I just worry about ya! Cos like, you're not at ALL useless... and also, why does one even need to be 'useful' in the first place? I think it's okay to just be 😌
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer you got some goals tucked in there I reckon, just a matter of teasing them out and breaking them down into more approachable chunks!
I've been struggling a lot with house stuff too, amongst other stuff, and focusing on it has been hard when the stress from the other stuff feels more pressing... but I have been trying to be forgiving and reminding myself that trying to change everything in my life all at once is only gonna leave me burnt out and frustrated. And by getting that one aspect in order, it reduces the stress going to other parts of my life. So maybe that's where you could start too? Like don't even THINK about career or social stuff till the house stuff feels less impactful for example!! That's how I've been approaching it for myself in any case. You will have your own priorities and process of course, but figured I'd share anyway 😊
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer maybe something to ask your psych for some help with? Breaking down your goals? I think it's also something we do a lot with clients in the Guided Recovery program, not sure if that was your expeirence?
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