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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
Aww hun, sending so many hugs your way @creative_writer I know exactly what you mean! And when you've had soooo many people shut you down when you've chosen to be vulnerable, it makes sense to come to a conclusion like that.
Just outta curiosity... how do you think your parents would respond if you let them know that when they shut you down for sharing your vulnerabilities, it leaves you feeling unworthy and as though you've wronged them...?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
Aye @creative_writer that's definitely the social construct... do you think your parents would 100% be that way tho? It's so hard to predict hey
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
Mm @creative_writer it's a challenge hey. Like my mum is an expert at repression, so even when I do tell her stuff, she sometimes just shoves it down and forgets and like... cool thanks? For your care? I know that she just wants what's best for me but sometimes that means she pretends not to know stuff cos it distresses her - it's not what she thinks is best for me. I'm just lucky that she does actually seem to go 'hey whatever makes you happy' but if your folks aren't really able to do that, it would be very difficult to pursue anything without fearing their judgement.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer Heck, if ever it's difficult to bring this stuff up in your psych appts you could always just show em some of these posts! The bit about 'programmed to consider my parents’ opinions above my own' is definitely worth delving into more deeply - when you're ready of course.
Do you feel like that was the correct decision - prioritising graduation?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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