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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Why can’t I pretend the pain isn’t real, maybe if I tell myself I’m okay and I don’t struggle with mental health I’ll be okay. Maybe if I tell myself that the traumatic memories aren’t real, then I can finally feel whole and less gross. Maybe I’ll just wake up from this dream soon and I’ll find peace within my mind when I do wake up. Maybe I’m okay, maybe there isn’t anything wrong with me
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rav3nSenior Contributor
@creative_writer trueee that makes a lot of sense... and i would much prefer a non-bitter drink hehe.
ohh i see! i'm sorry you've felt that way, it absolutely sucks to feel unseen. perhaps there'll be some other ND individuals who'll find their way to you. maybe it'll be in another environment like your future workplace!
oh yep definitely don't want to worsen the migraines!! connecting spiritually sounds important too, do you have to wait until your period's over to do that?
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JynxModerator
I've often said @creative_writer we are living in a world made by and for neurotypicals. It's not some personal failing to not be able to function in it!!
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer aye, it's real easy to fall into the trap of shaming yourself over it too ay. My biggest ADHD struggle right now is my memory - it's soooo poor, and that impacts my relationships. Sometimes the hardest part is the self-compassion and self-forgiveness.
I am hearing that you're being cautious, only going over by a little bit. I'd not be worried unless you started doing so all the time 😉
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer mm it can be so hard not to identify with the thoughts too hey. Can help sometimes to take the time to reflect on the ways the thoughts may not be true. Anxiety likes to present us with a thought as though it is absolute truth, so it helps me not over-identify with them if I take the time to find 'evidence' to the contrary.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer don't think there's any 'letting' going on there hun. You're doing your best, and you were already working with some childhood trauma stuff beforehand so it will take as long as it takes. You're allowed to reject the narrative of the perpetrator 'winning' or even 'losing' because this isn't a game - it's your life. And you don't need to give that person any more power over it. Struggling to recover when you're under-resourced and socially isolated is not their win. You don't need to give them that.
Hmm... does it need to be one or the other? Maybe it's less about the label, and more about looking at what might have shifted in your life?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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