You know what I hate that so so many people do. They judge us, they judge us on our habits, our quirks, our physical abilities. It is not because of our (insert reason) that we're this way, it's because we survived situations you couldn't even imagine.
I have early onset osteoarthritis in my lower back, knees and ankles because of what I went through as a child. I was never taught nutrition or friendship or anything normal kids learned. But how many tell me to get up and do more? That I should be able to do a Zumba class and not have to sit down? That I should have a full time job and a house and a husband by now?
But they don't know how much we've overcome just to get here. We are greater than their expectations, we are more than the consequences of our trauma. But still people think they're helping us by telling us what they think, they're trying to be someone they're not, at least we've come to be ourselves, even if it's unfamiliar to others.