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@ArraDreaming it's all good

@Jynx

I need to talk about something, been dealing with a whole other spanner last night that I'd like your opinion on

Last Night

Him: Hope your day went ok….

Re tomorrow… I’m still happy to catch up but it will need to be a bit later than originally planned I’m sorry…I have a job to attend to in the morning that I didn’t finish today… I’ll be back in (location) around (time)

Is there a time in the afternoon that suits you?

Me: Not particularly.

Doctors

Chiro

Workshop

Today

Me: I understand, I do, but there comes a point where the consistent cancellations and changes take a negative toll on me that i can't keep going like this. I'm trying but this isn't healthy for me or our relationship.

I'm less inclined to make time for this because I never know if it's going to happen. I used to plan around meeting up with you but I've lost confidence that it'll happen. I'm sorry.

Him: I’m sorry you feel that way…

I’d like to think my efforts with you have come from a genuine place and that I do really love and care about your wellbeing… life is busy and I have a family to support and sometimes job commitments come up that I need to attend to…

Me: I don't doubt your love and care for me and I do understand that your life is crazy busy.

I'm not saying that we stop meeting, I'm saying that we both need to be realistic about what we can commit to, whether it be a regular phone call or more spontaneity in this, like (friend) and (friend) do with me.

What I'm saying is that in its current state it's too hard and something needs to shift because right now, this isn't working.

@avant-garde I think it's totally fair to ask for more of a commitment!! I have a friend who is a bit like that - flaky. I know he means well but I think what he doesn't understand is that every time he cancels, I am left feeling really deflated, I have to rearrange all my plans and... well I miss him!! It's the disappointment that stings the most I think.

@Jynx and when it happens so often, it's hard

aye 100% @avant-garde like, when it's once or twice it's totally understandable but over and over - gets really grating hey.

@Jynx so I called him out

But with yesterday as well I'm really depleted now

Aye I bet @avant-garde you able to just chill the rest of the evening?

I'm off to the webinar at 7 then finishing at 8pm, just so you know!! In case I disappear 😉

@Jynx just finished the workshop so I guess we'll chat again later

@rav3n didn't think you'd be on today

hi! i'm usually not, covering for one of the mods tonight 😊 @avant-garde how are you going?