Running

@avant-garde I ask for the universe to give you a break to catch hun, my word. I'm sorry that things have been hard, and now you're also wounded...

I can only really give virtual hugs and a prayer, but I give them with great care. May your load lighten, your cup refill, and your healing be swift.

(づ ᴗ _ᴗ)づ♡

TW: SA

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@avant-garde wrote:

@AuntGlow

I won't be able to until our next session Thursday week

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Okay, well please do let me know how you go when you get to talk with them. @avant-garde

How are things in your world tonight? 🫶

@AuntGlow

https://saneforums.org/t5/Talking-through-trauma-and-PTSD/Running/m-p/1769130/highlight/true#M8411

Thank you for linking this for me @avant-garde.

I can't even begin to imagine how painful this would have been for you to experience... and the inordinate weight that must come with holding this experience for so long.

You didn't deserve the way you were treated; you deserved love and protection.

This really would be hard to tackle as a Christian...

How can we support you this week? 💛

@AuntGlow

I need some help in starting to challenge this belief, because I have no capacity to challenge it myself

Of course, we can absolutely work on this together. If you could label this belief specifically, what would it be? @avant-garde 💛

@AuntGlow

The word "label" is a bit ambiguous, as it makes me think of spice jars and diagnoses

But if I were to give it a topical heading I would say "my past experiences determine my worth"

I have a number of trauma influenced core beliefs, my most difficult would be that "I'm unworthy to be loved" in which virginity would be a part of that

I understand that perspective @avant-garde ☺️.

Firstly, thank you for sharing this with me, I always appreciate your vulnerability.

Secondly, I want to make sure challenging these beliefs is explored safely in this space, so I invite you to tell me when you don't want to talk about something, okay?

Thirdly, I am curious to know if there's a part of you (even if it's very small) that believes these thoughts might not be true? 💛

@AuntGlow

It's not easy being vulnerable, so thank you for acknowledging that

I will tell you if I need space from something

I think the fact that I'm asking for help in challenging this means that there's a part of me that doubts... I just don't know how big a part that is though