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Does anyone here believe they are destined to not being in a relationship? I feel this way a lot as I feel like I’m not a desirable person.
I’ve worked hard to be content and satisfied in life but I feel like that’s just gaslighting myself to think that’s what I need to be accepted.
I feel so sad
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Unknown userMember
@tyme
I am trying but I keep getting rejected by so many people, particularly women.
My value is equal to what we put in the rubbish.
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tymeModerator
Oh hun @Former-Member . I'm sorry you feel this about yourself. I can see how hard it is to live with these thoughts. Would you consider working with someone on perhaps some of these unhelpful thoughts that may pull your confidence down?
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Unknown userMember
@tyme
I have worked with others for 10 years on this stuff, it hasnt worked. Besides its too expensive and its absolutely not worth it anymore
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tymeModerator
Hey mate @Former-Member ,
If you haven't heard my story, I worked on my MH for 15 years and got no where.
Yet when the 'right' time came, things really shifted and within the next 3-5 years, I was a different person.
Please don't give up. We are here to support each other - even when things are tough.
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Unknown userMember
@tyme
I hope I find the right time soon, I feel like I am running out of time.
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tymeModerator
You never know @Former-Member .
I hope I didn't upset you by posting what I posted above.
I hear the pressures you are experiencing. I hope you learn to love yourself. Then I feel the rest will come.
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Unknown userMember
@tyme
You didn't say anything that upset me. It's just there is nothing anyone can really say to me anymore that makes me feel hopeful. Because I dont feel any hope due to the lack of any success in this area of my life.
If you met me in person it would probably make more sense.
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tymeModerator
But maybe there ARE successes, but there is a dark lens obscuring your vision? @Former-Member The Black Dog?
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Unknown userMember
@tyme
I get on dates but I never get past the first date so I dont know what other successes there are?
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tymeModerator
Do you use a dating app or something? @Former-Member
What to the people say? (Don't need to go into detail). But it is looks, it is vibes, it is the content of what you are sharing?
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