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Saying goodbye to pop

MDTSenior Contributor

Saying goodbye to pop

Today was hard. Pop is weak. And thin.

He will be leaving us.

We just dunno when.

My hearts breaks and aches.

For him and for nan

I just don't want him to suffer

The thought if him being in that place on his when he'd rather be next to nan in bed asleep and she wants that too.... it's so hard

Maybe this is my small burden to carry while nan carries hers and Pop his.

I felt like a kid again today. All I wanted to do was share the vanilla slide with my pop. But we couldn't.

Whatever part of me was hurt by that is a part of me that came out today. But what can I do. Nothing much. It isn't fair. I know that but I feel it and feeling it is different.

It will be hard.

But the love is what gets us by.

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TABSenior Contributor

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thats okay @ENKELI and thanks. it was like 7 years ago now. I had been thinking about her again for some reason

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AsgardSenior Contributor

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Hi @MDT

Nice to virtually meet you and sorry to hear about your pappa. I remember when my nonna and pappa passed, yes it felt strange that they were no longer here, but knowing that they are in a much better place was a great comfort to me. You will always have your memories of your pappa, he will never be forgotten, he lives in you and is part of your DNA. Thinking of you.......Asgard

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Hugs @MDT

Always hard watching and feeling helpless to do anything to change or improve things. Treasure your good memories and feelings and gently on all of you through this.

your old mate Apple

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MDTSenior Contributor

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Indeed tabs @TAB
People have said that to me about how this is part of growing up.
Initially I took it personally, as if people were saying to me that I was immature.
But I realise it's just an observation, and a neutral one at that.

Thanks for sharing about your mum

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MDTSenior Contributor

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Hi @Captain24
That's great about the Mars bar
I'm glad you have that

Not a bad idea too about the vanilla slice. It hurts at the same time though.

Thanks for sharing

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MDTSenior Contributor

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Thank you for your kind words @smiling_Gecko
It is hard. I think I forgot how hard.

My heart goes out for my nan too ofc.

Writing about it helps

We will get the chance to say good bye too we found out yesterday.

Thank you for your prayers too my friend

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MDTSenior Contributor

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Thanks a cool way to think of it @Glisten

I carry them with me now in my physical being

Cheers G

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MDTSenior Contributor

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I'm sorry to hear about your mum @Shaz51

Thank you for sharing my friend and for your wishes

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MDTSenior Contributor

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Thank you @ENKELI
I appreciate your words.

You know words were something Pop was good at. Guess it's passed on.

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MDTSenior Contributor

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Cheers @Asgard

For your kind words and help

Indeed. Those memories won't fade. They are as clear as they can be.


We will say goodbye to him before he goes so I think this is good
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