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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Hi all
I’ll be spending some time away from the forums since I’m not doing so good, no safety concerns, but I think I’m just simply too much for everyone here on the forums. My emotions are too much. May brain is too much. I don’t want to drown people in my pain, everyone is better off with me off the forums. I hope our paths cross again. Will say goodbye and wish you all the best. Sorry for being a pain
creative_writer
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SnowieSenior Contributor
Anger is a hard emotion to sit with, especially if you are holding it within @creative_writer
Is there a way to release some of it? Screaming into a pillow, hitting something, anything that might be able to help.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Hey @creative_writer ,
I cringe at the term personality disorder because it makes people think there's something innately wrong with someone's personality and that's just not true.
Do you think having a name for what you are experiencing is helpful for you?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
I have to say, because of trauma, I was seen to have an avoidant 'personality' yet in my recovery, I've been able to move towards things, and I'm sure people don't see me that way anymore.
If you met me 10 years ago, I am NOTHING like what I am now.
Therefore, I have to say that situations may cause people to demonstrate avoidant behaviours, yet this also gives me hope that situations can also allow people to change that.
What do you think @creative_writer ? Any thoughts?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
100% @creative_writer BPD is VERY treatable.
This reminds me. A few years ago, I studied personalities. In this, the research was around people being born with certain personalities and are therefore more prone to some conditions. HOWEVER, environmental factors can 'switch' these elements of personality on and off. Hence, what you shared about trauma is so true in this case. It can turn off the need for connection but turn on the alarm system for avoidance.
But as you said, you can go into remission. I've proved it.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Put it this way, I was very much leaning towards avoidant behaviours in the past. Over time, I've learnt to step away from that way of managing. @creative_writer
Let's just say that it can be static and not set in stone.
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