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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Hi all
I’ll be spending some time away from the forums since I’m not doing so good, no safety concerns, but I think I’m just simply too much for everyone here on the forums. My emotions are too much. May brain is too much. I don’t want to drown people in my pain, everyone is better off with me off the forums. I hope our paths cross again. Will say goodbye and wish you all the best. Sorry for being a pain
creative_writer
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer I imagine that is tied to hypervigilance, from the PTSD yeah? Makes sense, and the best way to overcome it afaik is by forming healthy relationships with consistency, mutual independence and mutual support, etc. to basically re-teach the survival system that close relationships don't automatically put you on your guard.
As for family - it does absolutely suck to feel lonely even when around others. Especially when those others are supposed to be our closest/most trusted relationships. I'm curious though, what would they do/say if you unmasked around them? Like I posted this over on the Toolshed:
So what would be the best, worst, most likely, and most insane outcomes for unmasking around family you reckon?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer mm rejection can be rough. Though like anything with PTSD, sensitivity to rejection is one that can be worked on/managed, especially with some exposure therapy. Like with my ADHD my RSD is pretty gnarly, but it used to be a hell of a lot worse. I still feel dejected if I'm rejected, but I am much better at not taking it quite so personally. Like the emotions will still arise but I won't entertain the thoughts that accompany them - the assumptions about my likeability and worth and stuff.
Best way to overcome rejection sensitivity is to go out and get rejected. Repeatedly. Until you're used to the feeling, and your survival system no longer goes into overdrive because of it.
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GlistenSenior Contributor
Good point @Jynx desensitise yourself. Turn it into a numbers game.
@creative_writer +7 Billion people in the world.
When I was at Uni there was this guy that constantly interrupted the lecture.
Drove me nuts. Then I noticed a friend of mine was keeping a tally - LOL
😂 G
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@Glisten yeah weirdly enough I learned this from door-to-door charity fundraising! It's all a numbers game hehe.
@creative_writer yeah for sure, finding 'your people' can be super challenging. And anything that requires us to deny, ignore, or otherwise push past our survival instincts is always going to be super challenging. I'm glad uni has provided a bit of opportunity!
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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SnowieSenior Contributor
Evening @creative_writer
Hoping your day went ok
💕💕
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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