Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

@Former-Member - was planning reach out to his sister if I don't hear in next day or 2.

What you say makes a lot of sense. He tends to struggle with his relationships, even friendships. His friends don't know about his mental illness (he says he doesn't think they do) whilst his family he says probably do but they don't talk about it. It's probably cause the focus is a lot on his younger brother's mental illness. Am struggling to know how to interact right now or should I say get his attention. I do want give him space and respect that but it's come to point right now that I can't do that...which makes me also feel rude and uncaring.

@Former-Member No offence taken. I know that I do mean a lot to him (or at least seemed a couple mths ago). When he has his good days he is adoring and affectionate. Even When he was first diagnosed and came stay over his words appeared say he didn't want a relationship but he never broke it off though. But his actions were contradicting. Was so confused. I notice when he is physically ill or something happens make him grumpy it impacts his mental state. At times has lashed out if I accidentally pushed the wrong button. And guess when he is down he isolates me. I get that he may need space and time alone but it be great for him to voice that.

How is husband today?

He thought he had passed the kidney stone when he got up this morning, but when he felt more gripey pains mid-morning he realised it was still there - after doing his normal morning jog, but before he did a gym workout .... he ended up skipping his evening jog (too tired), but then skipped dinner as a consequence, in that he had one prawn and half a cup of salad leaves.

How does he cope with taking medication vs his strict health regime?

He needs to take pain medications quite often as a result of his exercising stresses and injuries, or it would prevent him being able to continue, so it's a case of "the end justifies the means". He has specific anti-inflammatories for the kidney stones on hand, because he has been overseas or in remote locations before when one has cropped up.

Hope that you are ok F and H dont usually abbreviate, just dont have the energy today 🤗💕

How did all of your family cope on the overseas flights? Were they distracted by the novelty and gadgets therefore at ease?

Definitely, rely on gadgets, and are at ease .... they are also seasoned travellers ... we essentially have two cultures and two countries.

I am flying solo and desperately want a window seat.

I like the window seat .... there are often amazing things to see, and I like having the natural daylight available.

hope that you are remembering to look after you

Yeah .... trying to ..... 💕

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Hi @Former-Member

Sorry, it's taken me a little while to get back to these questions today -

It was easier to just add the answers in above .....

Thanks for the advice @Former-Member All those emotions you felt are definitely things I do now. As you said it's tough finding that balance when I don't fully understand or observe as he lives at home. I do want understand but it's hard when the other party is currently non responsive. He explained to me a few months back why it could be hard to reply to texts which I took on board and didn't expect a response. But now at this stage where his behaviour is out ordinary I feel left back at square 1. I am going to watch my tv show. Maybe that may help. Thanks for keeping me company my friend and especially your advice today. It really means a lot and has calmed me down a small bit 💕