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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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@Shaz51 @Former-Member@outlander @Former-Member @Sophia1 @Adge & all who need a HUG!

Love Bella XO 🙂

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Aw @Shaz51 - this is so hard for you - so confusing - when you could do with some TLC yourself

Actually I dread getting that old myself - old age is no place for sissies - the thought of being in aged-care gives me the willies actually and I have a best-by date sorted and hope I leave by then

That's before I get helpless

Anyway - is there anyway I can do cyber-massages - I did a year studying relaxation massage - and I practised on my fellow students as we all did - and my friends for free - there were too many relaxation masseurs coming out from that school to do it professionally - but

I am looking for an appropriate clipart thingies for massage - as a kind of ad - when am I not looking up clipart - let's see

After the massage you need something to get you back into shape

Right - perfect

I'm thinking of you Shaz and hope you can get a break in here somewhere

Dec

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@Shaz51

I really do feel for you, my sister cares for my Mother (same age as yours) and I often get interstate calls from Sis venting her frustration. A friend calls my mum 'a tough old broad'. I try and see the funny side of these frustrations (as in the TV show 'Mother & Son') and we often end up having a giggle and this cheers Sis up. Whilst we have a laugh, I do not diminish in any way the challenges she faces and it is the same here on the forums, it can be so hard.

Even though she does not have a license, Mum is still adept at driving us up the wall, round the bend etc. I believe this to be a skill a lot of people have and not just senior citizens.

I'm sure at times it seems like double trouble and not twice the love for you, particularly when Mr Shaz is being grumpy and you have two people to deal with, each with conflicting ideas.

Have you ever thought of adding juggling as one of your skills on your CV?

PS - the govt carer gateway website has some links for carers looking after their aging parents.

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hello and thank you @Former-Member, @Owlunar, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Adge, @Faith-and-Hope, @outlander, @Determined, @Former-Member, @Sophia1

adding juggling as one of your skills on your CV, ha ha yes everyday @Former-Member

I would love a massage

well today we worked this morning , brought a cake and had morning tea with mum @Former-Member, , mum had done her washing , watered her plants and done a crossword puzzles , she looks a bit brighter today than yesterday

we have the afternoon off

how is everyone today , sending you all hugs

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Love it @Former-Member

I have wondered how things are going to go in the future living so close to my in laws. I am certain there will be some boundary settings from both sides in early days lol.

Having said that I realy love and appreciate my inlaws so dont expect any real issues.

They have been an enormous support for us over the years so dont mind at all returning the favor as they get older.

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Love it @Former-Member

I have wondered how things are going to go in the future living so close to my in laws. I am certain there will be some boundary settings from both sides in early days lol.

Having said that I realy love and appreciate my inlaws so don't expect any real issues.

They have been an enormous support for us over the years so dont mind at all returning the favor as they get older.

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@Shaz51 ^^^

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LOL @Former-Member you have a clever way of putting things sometimes!

evening @Shaz51 im glad you had the afternoon off but sounds like a productive day

evening to everyone here too

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raining here today @outlander, @Determined, @Former-Member, @Owlunar, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Adge, @Smc

today I cleaned mum`s house , done the washing

then had to tke mum to hospital for her blood tests, found out she has an infection

this afternoon went to finish the accountant and then to centrelink

and then the cemist and back to mums before going home

I think i have a infection too , so now on ab`s until my appt next week

dietician rang to make a appt to see me

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Oh no @Shaz51 not another infection

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