Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

I can appreciate that @Shaz51

Proud of you for searching for your balance.

Hi @Shaz51

How are things for you today?

Thinking of you and Mr Shaz and trust things are improving and you are managing ok.

Hello @Determined, xx

How is you darling going this week , I have been thinking of you today

A bit better today @Determined, but we are both very very tired

My Hubby loves to do everything prefect , He wants to make everyone happy and he works too hard and then things happen

so we have had one big talk about it soo far , to change things and his thinking but it will not be easy xx

Hi @Shaz51

Glad to hear things are little better for you today and trust you can make the necessary changes soon. Change is always hard particularly if Mr Shaz is a perfectionist (I know my darling is and this creates lots of problems for us. I used to be but over time have been happy to just survive the day, what happens happens what doesn't will still be there tomorrow).

My darling seems to be doing ok so far, certainly much better than I anticipated, just have to wait an see if we can maintain it. She is getting back into some activities that she was enjoying before her last meltdown so I am hoping that this will help with her confidence.

I am back to uni next week so that will be the big test as I will be away during the day and have lots to do a night. Trying hard this week to get a routine in place over the last couple of weeks so things go more smoothly.

I will let you know how things go.

Hello @Determined

thank you, yes Hubby has not reach that yet , but hoping it will change over time

Hubby is asleep already , he is soooo tired

I find it is better if I expect the worse and then I get a surprise how well the day did go

Hi @Determined

I am always interested in what people are studying - so I have to ask what you are working on

And are you studying full time or part time

It took me 12 years to do a four year degree - so much happening in my life during that time - and for some of it I had two jobs -

Yes - life will be busy - I hope it goes all right for you and your darling

Dec

Hi @Owlunar

Currently studying Business- marketing. I started out part time after leaving work due to stress, tried full time last year but that did not go at all well when my darling became unwell again. She can not cope at all when I am the least bit stressed and I was not coping with the extra workload, that was the trigger I think for our current situation.

This semester under drs orders I have returned to part time study 😕

My darling seems to be managing ok at the moment. I just need to keep myself well and happy in order to best help her.

Hi @Shaz51

How are you and Mr Shaz going today? Thinking of you both and trust all is well.

Hello @Determined, @Owlunar

Same here @Determined, If I am stressed or not my self Mr Shaz is not good

we have got the weekend off

had a sleepin until 8am and watched a movie we taped

catching up with step daughter soon

Hi @Shaz51, well done with the sleep in wish I could lol

I had 2 little people on the go at 5am who then woke the baby 😣

Trust the family day goes well for you

Hi @Determined

I wish you the best with your studies - and hope you can work out what seems a very complex domestic arrangement

Business and Marketing - wow - there were so many course not available that have openned to people since I did my degree - I had an accounting diploma and worked with that for so long and in so many different areas - mostly metal trades and transport - I loved it - quite different from when I did some teaching after my degree and before I hurt my spine

It is really hard to keep oneself free from stress so as to keep someone else healthy - milllions of people must do it - in the long term we cannot keep other people happy - I guess it is hard to find that for ourselves when we have our own future to think of as well

Obviously it did not work out for me - I realised the other day that I have been divorced for over 1/4 of a century - I knew it in years - but thinking of it in parts of a century - wow

But in my situation my ex was lazy and morose - that is hard to live with too

I wish you the best - and Determined by name - Determined by nature

I wish you the best

Dec