Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Well done with the puzzle @Faith-and-Hope

mine jigsaw puzzle is still not finished yet

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not a good day today xx

We went to work for a lady who we do jobs for her all day every two weeks

this morning she was vry anxious as her sick husband went into hospital and now he is put in a nursing home , she talks to me all the time which I am ok with

today she had to go out for the day and left us a list of jobs to do , her anxiety levels were rising and so was my hubby`s job list and his anxiety level was rising tooo

The Lady left and I made morning tea and hubby came in looking a mess -- his anxiety had gone through the roof

His mind was a mess thinking non stop ,my poor darling

he was not coping at all , I sad " do you want to go home " -- I will leave a note

"are you Ok " , " Do you want to go to the hospital ""

hubby said going to the hospital is a waste of time !!!!!

Sit down for a little while , and only do what you can

WOW what a day , there was more happening this afternoon

but we are home

Unusure what to do in what is best for hubby`s health and well being ???

Hi @Shaz51

So sorry to hear today was so hard for you. Did you get all of your jobs done?

How is Mr Shaz tonight? Trusting a restful night may see an improvement for tomorrow.

How are you copeing now? Will be thinking of you both.

Thank you @Determined, @Faith-and-Hope

Hubby seems to go around in cycles,

so on saturday I could see it starting , getting worse since then until yesterday

Hubby seem to have a good sleep but woke up very very tired

have 2 jobs today which is good , but fingers crossed

Like @Former-Member husband and My hubby are twins

I am feeling a bit tired

have a ok day my wonderful friends xx

Hi @Shaz51

I agree with @Former-Member ..... some jigsaw time every day is medicine for you .... have to take care of the carer .....

While we don't have a diagnosis yet, and I have a snowflake's chance of getting Mr F&H anywhere ..... I have discussed with support services and my psychologist what sort of symptoms would indicate that he is entering a health crisis that requires immediate medical intervention so I have a general plan of action to follow if it comes to that.

Whether Mr Shaz is prepared to seek help or support or not, I think for your own health you need to talk to someone about a safety plan, and where to go and what to do when he is reaching a certain level of anxiety and / or physical symptoms.

That may be as simple as him lying down with his feet up, drinking a cup of hot, slightly sweet tea, with a damp cloth on his forehead or the back of his neck. If he is starting towards a panic attack, having a plan to follow and set steps to take can be a comfort to both of you, and help keep the anxiety from spiralling out of control.

❤️💕

@Determined