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tymeModerator
Hey @Sunnyside226 ,
I hope you don't mind me making this thread for you.
I just wanted you to know that the whole forums community is here to support you through this challenging time.
Please look after yourself. I recognise it's hard to look after three small children on your own.
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Unknown userMember
Hey @Sunnyside226, it sounds like you're having a rough day! I'm sorry to hear that!
Sometimes, it is good to let our emotions out, so long as we do not harm ourselves or others.
I wonder if you could pick something from the following list, like give yourself time to play or scream into a pillow:
Alternate Rebellion | DBT Self Help
Could you join your other child in whatever activity they are engaging in? Or do you need to self-regulate first? Here with you!
You're not worthless! Just going through tough times, by the sounds of it! I know when I am having a bad day, those feelings of low self-worth creep in, but that doesn't mean they are true! You can get through this ❤️
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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RiverSealModerator
Ask yourself whether smashing this is actually helping you rn or whether you could be letting your emotions out in less destructive ways @Sunnyside226. You mentioned you were laying into a pillow over the weekend which is a good way of letting off steam that is not destructive.
You are caring for children and providing them with a safe space to live and they aren't yours. That is a very worthwhile thing to be doing!
Take care
RiverSeal
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Sunnyside226Senior Contributor
@RiverSeal @Former-Member you know what people on here make things so much worse everyone thinks I am some kind of person who just isn't capable of looking out for the kids so next time my brother asked me to do I will say no because people in here make out like I am some bad person who just hurts hurts everything it's obvious you think I am bad
This was what I was talking to with @tyme last night I really hope you are happy for making someone else feel like shit it's not anyone I just tagged
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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RiverSealModerator
We can't control what other people say to us and we can only control our responses @Sunnyside226. The Forums community knows that you are doing a good job of caring for your brother's children. We know that you are finding it tough, but you are demonstrating your resilience and strength as you are dealing with your MH as well.
Maybe setting some boundaries with your brother is a good idea and not taking on responsibilities that you don't want in the future. Have you done that with other things in your life or with your family before?
Please stay connected on the Forums with the community and we are here to support you.
RiverSeal
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Sunnyside226Senior Contributor
@RiverSeal is there a manger or boss?
I just called my brother told him everything I called my friend she's going to take them for the last days now I told them both what happened I told them I was a shitty person and everything so I will no longer have the kids
@RiverSeal sorry you had to see me angry but I can't handle this anymore people on here have made me feel like I can't do anything right
The kids will be gone at 430 today to my friends house I won't see them again
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RiverSealModerator
If you want to talk with @tyme please email team@saneforums.org and they will get your email as they are the Community Lead on the Forums.
I know you have been going through a tough time looking after the kids @Sunnyside226 and it's good that you set a boundary and called your brother, and they are going to stay with your friend for the rest of the time.
It's ok to display anger @Sunnyside226 we are here to support you and know that you have been going through a tough time lately.
How do you feel now you have made this plan?
RiverSeal
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